when you guys are in a relationship, does the woman assume that she owns you ?
I would rephrase what you said:
the woman assumes she will own you from some point on.
NOTE: In order for the following to apply, a contract has to be presented to her in some form. You have to state what your terms are, not what her terms are. This does not have to be overtly verbal, it does have to be made clear to her, either verbally, through your behaviour or a
combination of both.
There are two distinct phases:
A - Before the relationship
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She may turn her nose up at the mention of the contract and walk away.
She may turn her nose up and
fake walking away, she will be back.
She may
challenge you and see if you stick to your word or cave in.
She may try and
avoid the whole subject, ignore it and sweep it under the carpet (to later claim ignorance about it and the terms)
She may
think that she accepts it, because of what she will get out of it.
She may
fake accepting it, thinking she will change your mind later.
She may
truly accept it at that point in time.
She may
truly accept it
B - During the relationship
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She
WILL from time to time do things and say things which will test your commitment to standing by the terms of the contract.
These will take many forms and be at times at which she
feels you will be
most likely to cave in.
Some of this will be
subconscious, some will be concious.
NOW, she may get angry or upset when you stick to your guns. Do not cave at this point, this is part of the testing process, to see if you will cave if she applies emotional pressure.
Contrary to what a lot of guys think, sticking to your guns will
RAISE your value with her. There may be a slight reaction at the time, however it
WILL make her want you more - she can trust you to stick to your word and knows where you stand.
THIS RAISES YOUR VALUE TO HER!
She wanted to possess you to save her from worrying about
'losing' you. Then she raises your value in her mind. So she will want to possess you more, it will come back given time.
Think of it like waves on an ocean, one passes then there is the lull, then another one comes. No one knows if the next one will be bigger or smaller, it will come at some point. Sometimes the ocean is calm for days, sometimes it is very choppy.
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I have only known two women who agreed to the contract and then did not test later, they were both very secure in themselves and happy with their lives. They were happy with the deal as it was offered - it suited them well.
The more insecure the woman is, the more often and the stronger the challenges will come. (in my view and experience) - Inner insecurity, deep down.. Not the surface stuff.