To elaborate more:

My understand of reality, from experience and readings, is that reality for all of us is different. We all see things differently. Our attitudes and beliefs structure what we see (reality). What does it mean when users write "they see reality for what it is"...isn't that just their own perception of "reality for what it is"?

When you free yourself from the burden of reaching out there to grasp, to experience, and to be in that reality, then you will find that it is difficult to understand the reality of anything. You will find that you have no way of experiencing the reality of anything, but at least you will not be living in a world of illusions. You will accept that there is nothing, nothing that you can do to experience the reality of anything, except the reality that is imposed on us by the society. We have to accept the reality as it is imposed on us by the society because it is very essential for us to function in this world intelligently and sanely. If we don't accept that reality, we are lost. We will end up in the loony bin. So we have to accept the reality as it is imposed on us by the culture, by society or whatever you want to call it, and at the same time understand that there is nothing that we can do to experience the reality of anything. Then you will not be in conflict with the society, and the demand to be something other than what you are will also come to an end.

how is the phrase perception is reality evading to ego?

All suffering and fear is created by a fundamental
misunderstanding of the true nature of Reality.
Buddha said that a good many years ago.

@GoldenBoy: Is that from the "Give Up" talk UG gave many years back?

@StephenP: Note takin

@Morpheus: I agree. We can't disconnect ourselves from ourselves to see the world without bias; except for monks maybe.

We can't disconnect ourselves from ourselves to see the world without bias; except for monks maybe.

There's no other game to play.
Embrace it.

There's no other game to play.
Embrace it.

The more I see the more I realize life is a game. The game of all games!

Sniper, do you still believe in this good/nice girl fairytale

1. Even if a girl is 'nice' on the outside it still doesn't mean she will be a good relationship material. heck I had two 'nice' girls who turned out to be bad relationship material.

2. Even if the girl is nice and good relationship material to you (because she sees You as her x-factor)
you still have to keep the 'pimp tight' mindset cause as soon as you don't finish how you start or don't keep your power - the girl will try to take advantage of it\you.

there are girls who act good and nice at this time and there are girls who act bad at this time

Nobody is good or bad permanently. There are no fixed characteristics. It only matters if they are good or bad now. Treat everyone accordingly.

So in other words there's no such thing as a good/nice girl

Nobody is good or bad permanently. There are no fixed characteristics. It only matters if they are good or bad now. Treat everyone accordingly.

This makes sense. People shift into different behavior patterns in different situations. Don't even know they're doing it.