When i go out at night I tell myself tonight i will go out with the intention of catching women who are jocking me and giving me eye contact like catching fish and then go approach only those ones.
When i arrive and set myself up where i can scan the whole place and then proceed to look for the fish that are really eyeing me i can never catch then in time(When my intent is observation and approach the obvious ones only mode i usually catch them when my intent is observe only but won't approach mode).In this mode.a girl may glance at me more than twice and then i wait for the next glance to catch her but i never do.I am always milliseconds too late.The dance floor is a reflection of my inner world and for some reason when i am looking the "catch" the ones giving me jocking signals i am a tad late and it always slips out of my hand.
Again let me emphasize that this is only when my intent is to approach the one's who i catch checking me out mode but this is usually not the case in observation only for the sake of observation where i don't intend to approach them mode.In this scenrio,i can clearly see lots of jocking but only if i tell myself i won't be approaching just people watching.
On the otherhand, when i tell myself i am going out with the intention of only seeing who is giving me eye contact but i will be observing only and no approaching then i get alot more eyecontact and jocking signals than the scenerio above.They will even come up and dance next to me.I don't approach them because i am in observation mode and i have a feeling that the reason they came up and started dancing next to me is because subconsciously they knew i didn't intend to approach them.If i am going out only with the intention of approaching those who jock me than i don't think they would be dancing next to me.Not sure if the different intentions are doing something to my vibe. Again in this scenario,if the dancefloor is a reflection of my inner world then them jocking must be a reflection of me telling myself before i go out that i won't approach.This amount of jocking only happens when i am in observation only mode and the second i switch my intention to "using observation to catch and approach fish mode" instead of "observation but no approaching mode" i can't seem to catch them.It's fun going out for awhile in "observation only mode" but sometimes i would also like to approach them.The problem is when i say tonight i am gonna approach only on the condition of something obvious like they give me more than 2 glances then something internally just won't let me catch them.In this mode if the dance floor is a reflection of my inner world when i start looking for obvious ones to approach its almost like the objects are being sucked out of the tunnel of my inner world.Always millisecond too late.These two world feel like a paradox almost like two different dimensions.
Any advice would be appreciated here.
Quantum physics double slit experiment, playing with you...
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Let me expand the analogy of the fisher, you are indeed trying to catch a fish but with the downside that you don't have no reel and when they get near your bait, you are trying to catch them with your bare hands, and they often quite slips from your hands.
Keep observing but this time, inside.