I hope anybody who has more insight into this will correct me.

That's why I believe that PUA and everything else that is external-outcome oriented is pure bullshit. Why would you want to spend your time trying to make a girl like you? What does that bring you?

1) The first thing we have to identify is what we can and cannot control. After that, we can simply let go, and therein accept, whatever we cannot control while focusing on the one thing we do have power over, which is ourselves.

Even if all goes well and you neg/tease/push-pull to perfection, the outcome will be a quick burst of self-acceptance and self-love (yeeah, she likes me, which means I'm great), which will slowly fade if the external validations aren't there. Whereas simply loving yourself, knowing you do have the power to change anything that can be changed, is constant self-love. You don't really need anybody's approval and finally become independent. Free to do whatever you please. It sounds like this crazy complicated thing, but it's so simple.

.Last night, me and a few friends took some hawaiian psychadelics.

I don't agree with some of the things you said though, Scarf.

Instead of going through and learning some dumbfoundingly complicated things to get to "Stage 2 - Interest" of attraction, he can simply start working on making himself happy.

Technically true. Practically impossible.


As evidenced by the very fact that you are on here and started this thread in the first place. You mean to tell me that you knew this truth from the day you were born? You came into the community knowing this truth? You just happen to be here, do you? No prior learning took place before you stumbled upon your grand discovery?


You can teach this truth to every guy you can find and no guy will be able to listen to you or take your message in unless they are in the proximity of being able to interpret what it is that you are expressing. Have a look at some of the people on this forum. Why has it taken so long for some members here to get it? Why are other members in need of further contemplation?

Better yet, why don't you go off to Zan's forum or David DeAngelo's forum or Style's forum and reveal to them this grand truth that you have discovered. Tell them! Tell them what they need to hear! Tell them of your great revelation.

Do you honestly think for one second they will be able to even contemplate, understand or be in the proximity of what it is you're expressing?

Honestly?

That's fair...and Scarf knows that he and I don't see eye to eye on some things because of my overall ignorance regarding 'the community'...we harbor no animosity for each other tho...I feel that he understands that some things I just won't 'get'...so I get a pass from his usually insightful rants.

Pick up artistry was invented for a reason. That very reason was for guys to have a tangible, cerebral understanding that attracting women was not outside the control of any man in general. This mentality alone is a huge step in allowing guys to release resistance when dealing with women. You could argue that any of the advice given doesn't matter at all; just the shift in mentality is a step forward to greater understanding of men's freedom and power.


There is nothing wrong with this paragraph except that people are unable to function to this level of understanding from one side of the spectrum to the other.

The guy who is trying to pick up the girl or learn pick up is not aware that he is seeking his own independence, he is only aware of the observation of his own life: "I do not have a girlfriend, I want a girlfriend". That is all. If you talk to this guy about his own independence, not only will he not listen to you, he will happily give it up for a girl, a one night stand, a marriage - anything because he is desperate. He does not wish for anything other than the ability to find a woman. It is this bliss that he is following. The benefit here is that when he gets what he wants, then he he has a better chance of understanding that this was not what he was looking for and what he was actually looking for lay somewhere else.

However, if he had not gotten to his primary destination, he would not have known that a further destination existed.

The pick up artistry anchor helped him on his way to getting there. It is true that some people get stuck on pick up artistry. They will still get there, they're just going to take a little longer.