However, I could never go back to the "old" (PUA) way. In fact thinking back on my days doing that makes me cringe.
I must say, I hate and always hated, "having to" go chat up many women. Only in the beginning, did I like it. Because it felt like and i was, conquering a fear. Since I was afraid to go up to stranger women, and state that my intent of doing it was for romantic reasons. So I liked about it, that I conquered a fear (better stated would be: learn how to deal with it better and do as I like to do although I feel fear/nervousness).
But after that, it soon became more like:
"Approaching sucks, it most of the time is no/little fun for me. I hate having to do this. I hate the many flat/friendly but not intrested type of reactions that I have to go through. I even more hate, the occasional bitch/negative reaction I have to deal with. I'm only doing this because the 10% or so, that does respond postive/seems interested which makes up for it a bit"
I did a little testing yesterday, in trying to be more observant about jocking behaviour from woman. Trying to become a bit more aware of it, and doing a bit of learning about it by trying to be more observant. I never did this before, since I was more about going after what I see and like, instead of also looking whom might like me.
Lessons I learned.
My ideas of how women show "jocking", isn't (totally) accurate. My idea was, that the way they will do it is (almost every time) by making solid eye contact and possibly adding a "hi" or something to it.
As I was standing somewhere, enjoying my ice-cream.
A woman walked by on that street, and she didn't make any eye contact I noticed. But something (don't ask me what, more a feeling) made me feel like she wasn't all that disinterested as the lack of eyecontact would make it seem, looking back maybe it seemed more like she was forcing herself not to make eye-contact with me (for whatever reason).
Since my idea was, that women that like on first sight what they see, will make/give some solid eye-contact. I thought to myself something like: "she must then not be liking/interested in what she saw, I guess that what I felt/thought at first was wrong or something else."
Some minutes (like 3 orso?) later of standing there and eating my ice-cream, I kinda swiftly turned my head the other way. And I see, that women there standing staring at me for obvious no apparant reason. She swiftly tries and does turn her head/eyes away, asif she was not staring/looking at me but at something else and then went to walk again. Since she had no reason to go stand there, that was kinda weird.
Anyways. What I learned:
My initial gut feeling was right, I better start going by that and not questions it through trying to analyze stuff or having an subjective notion upfront.
My prenotions/ideas of how women will show/do jocking is insufficient; therefore I shouldn't draw conclusions from that/those ideas and better try to go about it as objective/prenotion less as I can.