PimpDee wrote: * | Wed Jul 21, 2021 12:04 pm |
Ask yourself what it is that they are seeing because of the babysitting, that they would not usually see with you on your own.
I've already asked that and i do not have the answer.
PimpDee(RE-ARRANGED) wrote: | Wed Jul 21, 2021 8:35 am |
I live in a <<sea city>> so I can go to the beach daily.
I spend time with the kid doing snorkeling, swimming
I make sure that after all those swimming, he comes at his house, tired cause he cannot do anything other
he really enjoy it.
I didn't beckon. Cause when I noticed that is when we were doing something or I was doing something.
she was staring at him like 2 minutes straight and talking to her mother about him
when I told him he said: <<really? I didnt noticed>>
the kid is so in his world, that a girl his age literally chased him, yesterday.
I was laying towels, umbrella and the kid just run to the water.
we were walking and talking about something
I was leading him to go this or there
when I noticed that is when we were doing something or I was doing something.
I have to babysitt a 12 years old kid from a friend of mine
I got few times mistaken as a father for this kid
Are you sure Daddy?
Could it be that they are seeing you interacting with a 12 year old boy.
How the boy reacts/interacts to you
how you react/interact to the boy
How you are both interacting with your environment
How you are spending time together
How regular it is
How familiar and comfortable you are with each other
The part where you are both in another place enjoying yourselves (metaphorically)
You are, while babysitting, in the parental role, even if not biologically the parent.
I wonder how many lessons the kid has to teach you
Thanks for the reply.
I try to resume. I pick him up at his home, we spend most of the time at the beach, I pick him down at his home.
His desire to go to the beach to swim is high, he even accelerates his walk when we are very close to the beach. So when he enters the beach, he walks in front of me, quasi running, sometimes few meters, just to find a place as quick as possible to took off his stuff and to go into water.
He follows most of the time and I gave him enough space when he goes sometimes alone cause I hate screaming when there is no real danger or to remind him every minute to be careful when walks on the rocks like his gradma does (I didn't like it when I was his same age too <<don't go there is dangerous, be careful there you can fell off...ect...>>).
When there is one, I simply go, grab his arm, command to go and he follows me.
Yeah he talks about what he likes, he doesn't like, what he did, what he would like to do and what he read about something and/or experience it (could be food, could be a fish, whatever we saw together snorkeling, ect). He knows a lot of stuff about underwater environment, food recipes due to his parents travelling a lot.
Most of the time he is the one talking, sometimes he starts the conversation and I ask him questions and I even noticed some patterns of media indoctrination. So from time to time I challenge him by making more questions so I want him to see another point of view (cause he understand) and to doubt a bit about what he knows about some argument (for example climate, politics, ect...mind you, he was raised in London).
I can understand why someone can see me a father to this kid (he also has curly hair same as me and brown eyes like me). Even a old woman I know, as a joke, she told me: <<you are doing practice (as a father), you are doing good I see>>.
What I am learning by this babysitting, is about leading.
But I still do not get it about women.
Why a woman would find attractive this?
Are they looking for a daddy? Is it normal or it is a red flag?