Natural Freedom

Hey guys

This is not a success story but a story of not running away anymore, at least it is like that for me.

Since one week I kind of changed. I decided to not run away from my emotions and the things that hold me back anymore. With this decision which was influenced by many sources (The Kidd, Social buddha, Brent, Peregrinus...) I gained a better look at the world around me, and myself. Not surprising that I finally am able to understand the stuff these people mentioned above really talk about. No wonder its a pleasure to read the stuff here much more now

What do I mean by "letting stuff come up"? Well, many of you guys know the feelings of neediness, attachment and dependence when you see a pretty woman. This is what bothered me the most since I got really aware about my emotions and how they work. Since one year I tried to get rid of those emotions, trying the Sedona Method, EFT, Abundance Course and a small bit of body method but the emotions remained as big as they had been one year ago. Why? Because, altough I tried to face them, I run away from them. I didn't accept them! As I wrote somewhere else, the releasing methods don't REALLY work for many people (maybe to a certain degree) because they're not accepting the emotions and just ask the releasing questions. Hm, here comes the magic phrase again: What you resist, persists.

What do I do differently now? I just let the emotions and shit come up, and let them be there, no questions, just observing. I observe them, and I have to say that its adventorous and interesting to watch your emotions, how they come up, how they feel, how they move around a bit etc. And I can say, when you finally let them come up and don't fight them, they come up even more and stronger because you face them. But that doesn't matter since you just observe them.

So I don't run away from them anymore. There are a lot of pretty women in the city I study in. I used to repress my emotions when I saw one, trying not to make a big deal out of the emotion. I also used, whenever possible, to avoid passing them. Example: When I saw pretty women on a bench I walked around the bench, not straight by. Thats not "dealing with your emotions", this is cowardice!

Now I intentionally go by them, look at them so that the emotions can come up. I am not a coward anymore, I face the demon, as Kidd would say. If you don't give the emotions a bad meaning, they really aren't that bad, they're just emotions.

But its also a matter of practice. Being the observer is already easier than three days ago, and not being the judge of your emotions. And it will get easier again.

So thats it for now

Now THIS is the kind of stuff I like to read...glad to know mindsets are being changed and progress is being made.

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that's why affirmations often don't work. Because people try to use affirmations to cover up emotions (band-aid) as you said Kidd.

And as for the release methods: like you said- they can only work If you fully accept whatever is happening first....

Edit: yea that's cool- it's alive. Lol

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"a sniper is the worst romancer, he never makes the first move"

BRAVO!

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In building a statue, a sculptor doesn't keep adding clay to his subject.He keeps chiseling away at the inessentials until the truth of its creation is revealed without obstructions. Perfection is not when there is no more to add,but no more to take away.

Thanks guys. That wouldn't have been possible without your posts and your help. And as I told you before, I didn't understand them until something "clicked" for me.

I feel like making friends with my emotions right now. I really was standing in my own way. I read a 100 times that how we feel is a choice WE make but I didn't get it. My goal was to get rid of those emotions. It was like either I have them and be unhappy, or I don't have them and be happy. These were the only two options I had in my mind. But now I know that there's at least a third way - being ok with my emotions. The more I think about my limiting beliefs, the more I see that everything I fear about them is the emotions I get when I'm in those situations. I thought that I could get over it by just sitting at home and telling myself "I feel completely comfortable around women" a 100 times. But most certainly this would have never changed anything because its still running away from it, not facing it.

It is so simple actually. "Accept what you can't change about yourself" is what Kidd says. The emotions we have and we feel being the victims of are something we can't change at the moment, and all we have to do is accepting them. Wonderful

This is brilliant Dr. Awesome,

Sounds like you just leveled up in life