GUT
All kindsa shit started happening, as I said before, but i'll stick (for now) with what 'Grinus asked me to elaborate on:
Eventually ended up at the supermarket to get a few things. As I was lining up, this older, chubby woman was behind me (let's call her 'Chubs'), and she only had a couple things, so I told her to go in front of me. She kept checking back and forth to see if there were shorter lines anywhere else. So without editing or checking myself (because I felt a gradually, increasingly familiar compulsion - three letter word), I smirked and said to her "You know, I find that I can't help but see a woman who is constantly looking at other options as somewhat wanton." She laughed & denied it, and I said "I never told you that was a bad thing." [
Bear in mind that I was not sexually attracted to her; was just having fun. I do this sometimes. Despite the manipulations, I find many women to be playful, but I need to use my gut to tell me who I can start on. Or alternatively, bring the teasing up gradually and see how she responds. By the way, some old ladies flirt and handle innuendo REAL well. ]
So we're chatting away about nothing in particular (she's getting very animated), and eventually the woman in front of her is being checked through (middle-aged but not bad-looking, has kept herself in good shape, has a very 'mousy' and nerdy look about her - let's call her 'Specs'). Somehow, one of Chubby's things gets confused with hers & checked through, so now it's a mess over Specs paying for it and Chubs will pay her back. Specs says, grinning at me, "You caused this - you're disruptive."
Once again, out my mouth before I could edit it, I tell Chubs "You thought you could trick her into paying for your stuff, but she seems really quiet, and we all know it's really the quiet ones that are the wanton ones. You may have bitten off more than you can chew." Specs denies this, with a BROAAAAD smile on her face. I remind her that I said that being wanton is ok with me. Specs says "I'm not, but my husband is. Worse still, he's shameless about it." I say "Shit, that's the combination i'm aspiring to, but i'm new to it and I can't quite get it right - I need some pointers from him. At any rate, I consider you lucky to have a man like that. Why are you still talking to me? Get back home so you can both be wanton TOGETHER." She looks at me like i'm a steak........
Then I hear a voice behind me, telling the other two "HE looks wanton; you can see it written ALL over him!" I turn around, it's the woman in line behind me, a very shy/quiet-looking, but not nerdy woman, closer to my age, slightly chubby but a little cute, and
very innocent-looking. She's grinning like a cheshire cat. So I say "You look QUIETEST of all, and I am therefore scared shitless of YOU." She denies this, and I note that all she has are wine & beer, and point out to her that these are the hallmarks of a wanton evening. She then points out some small items she's purchasing for her young son at home. I say "Good grief. So you expect me to believe that you got him through a stork? Besides, you say i'm wanton, but how would you know (words start to slow down) unless.. you.... had..... the.......... experience.............? Oh God........" And I leave my mouth open, in mock horror. She lowers her head & really blushes. When she looks back up, there's that 'sparkle' in her eye. As if to say "Yes I have, and it's wonderful." Then this comes out of me automatically, with a smile of pride for HER on my face, in a flat tone and low voice: "I am so happy for you right now, words fail me." Another blush, then a smile that says "You're really cool. I'm real glad we met."
At this point, Chubs had left, but the other two were bubbling with a kind of subdued enthusiasm. It was like the energy that little girls give off when they're 'comfortably excited' with me, but a little more well-formed, not so 'wild'......
Then I got on with my life. Oh, I forgot to mention, Specs had her daughter with her (looked to be about 10/11 years old), and she too was grinning from ear-to-ear at me throughout this whole exchange.
Specs made absolutely no move to 'protect' her from this 'adult' situation.
Throughout this whole episode, the entire volume of the supermarket went up, to the point where it was unnaturally loud. And 'Grinus, you're right - there's an energy to it as well. And I feel like if I 'used' it I would've forced things and gone overboard; it was more like riding a wave, balancing on it, going with it, I guess. I also notice that if i'm out at a mall reading/observing, the longer I stay in my seat, the more this ambient noise happens too. It seems to rise gradually, but other times I don't notice it until it's actually uncomfortable.
Like I said in my earlier post, the cashier looked miserable and almost hostile when I first entered the line; by the time she handed me my change, she was beaming, and looked at me as if to say "Thanks for making my night."
I wished everyone a wonderful weekend (with a knowing smile to everyone revealed as 'wanton') and made my exit......
.....but not before being stopped by one of the younger employees to make sure the guys in the back of the store confirmed something I had asked her about earlier...... followed by some more chatting. Then I REALLY had to go.
Remember, this is the same evening I encountered those feelings of needyness in my last post.
This post came out much longer than I intended. Sorry about that, but I hope it shows what you were looking for me to show, and that like you said, it shows the possibilities.