I'm gonna read this book tonight. I'll let you know if I feel the same.
From what I read of your recent posts it seems you are starting to scratch the surface of it, but you still seem confused.
Due to my new lifestyle I finally buyied an italian version, very old, of this book from 1971.
What can I say?
I am only one here with contrasted impressions, I mean from understanding logically some concepts she talk about and others who are just there to make you feel without any solution to that? She kinda gave me the impression that having kids is a bad thing.
I am going to re read that book again someday in this period and underline things is needed to understand and to be explained.
Having kids isn't bad but if you live in western society you will have a better understanding, but from what I can tell from your posts especially this one you definitely don't get it.
Let's take the German chic you was chasing after, she's basically how most western single women act. They're like children that want to have it both ways thanks to feminism. From what I see feminism is female nature unchecked giving special privileges to women and special punishments for men
. Women will use what they have ie their looks and vagina to get into a state of parasitic symbiosis (relationship) sow a man up then eventually destroy if the man doesn't understand women.
Let's go to the Bible on this for a second God hates divorce but divorce over here right now is about or over 75% right now. Now I get it if the relationship you're in is toxic or even endangering your life then yes you should get a divorce for your safety, but these days in the legal system especially treat marriage as a utility and divorce like a business, and the government is basically the husband/daddy which is why they go around screaming I don't need a man.
They're so obvious with it now because the court system basically favors women to a fault. If you have kids with them it gets way worse because then you need to pay child support which for most men destroys them and they either go to jail or they end up homeless. Most women hate men because they have penis envy and they despise women because they already know how women are.
For myself I have come to peace with this for the most part and just living life, I have been focusing on just becoming a better man and maximize my potential and experience life. I am still awkward around them but learning to better deal with it, I will treat women accordingly, from pump and dump, chill with them from time to time, and this is a big stretch but might even consider a long term relationship but definitely no marriage.
If I am friend zoned cool I won't waste my time or hers and just get back to enjoying this thing called life I won't twiddle my thumbs and I'll carry on. There are more women than men thanks to the more dangerous jobs men partake like fishing in the Antartic, construction and the many deaths of men in the military that countries and other nations fight thanks to the facade of war for fighting for our rights, when they do it for more selfish reasons.
It passed a lot of months but in my perspective I haven't so much elements to say but, the "feminism movement" is a part of a bigger picture. Women are "trained" with those ideas here in the West by who is in charge since school is doing the education that parents should do.
I personally asked some old people about the topic of women, and most of them told me "women are trained, educated to be like that, they weren't like in this Today era".
Plus at that time there were the two blocks of the world, this was especially felt in Germany, divided in two, so it wouldn't surprise me that the critics she got it was even about some her possible anti-western social-political views (maybe she was a commie sympatizer? I don't know).
I though that Esther had a "happy family life" but after reading wiki the question came out by itself: how you will betray something that give you benefits?
See from wikipedia about Esther Vilar life, she is not christian and she ended up doing what her parents did.
Vilar's parents were German-Jewish emigrants. They separated when she was 3 years old.
She studied medicine at the University of Buenos Aires, and in 1960 went to West Germany on scholarship to continue her studies in psychology and sociology. She worked as a doctor in a Bavarian hospital for a year, and has also worked as a translator, saleswoman, assembly-line worker in a thermometer factory, shoe model, and secretary.
In 1961 Esther married the German author Klaus Wagn. The marriage ended in divorce after two years but they had a son, Martin, in 1964. Concerning the divorce she stated: "I didn't break up with the man, just with marriage as an institution".
I will read the book again this week and write here more opinions about it.