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There is this girl who is a friend of mine. We got along great...
I'm not intrested in her romanticly cause she does not attract me, she also has a boyfriend.

Anyway, one day 'out of the blue' she turns cold and rude without me doing anything bad.

I cut my friendship with her cause I don't take shit from anyone anymore.
I was also not attracted to her so I don't really care if she wants us to not be friends anymore....

But I want to use this as a learning experience from someone who has more experience (you )
has this ever happened to you?
how come some women are nice and good and then suddently one day 'out of the blue' they become the opposite (for no reason)?

I knew this girl for some time and I don't beleive she was schizophrenic.
It happened to me twice in the past with two other girls too.

The only difference is:
in the past I used to try and talk to them to see what was wrong (even though I knew I did nothing). Today I have zero tolerance for drama so I just cut it off right away without trying to figure it out.

If I know I did nothing bad Or if I did do something bad and she does not have the integrity to tell me then I don't need people like that in my life

But you know, some women are weird....

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"a sniper is the worst romancer, he never makes the first move"

I'm not an expert with women so I hope you don't mind me giving my thoughts on this. Women are people just like everyone else. I'm pretty mellow, it takes a lot to piss me off and when something does I try to make sure I don't take out that anger on anyone else. Anyway, you seem to be a guy that handles his emotions very well and does not allow them to control you. Sadly, this is not the case for the majority of people. They get angry, then don't know how to handle that anger and take it out on other people. Don't take it personal, give her some space and see if she calms down a little. Maybe later ask her if something is bothering her. I hate drama too and stay away from it as much as possible. But if they are truly my friend I always want to know if they need help or something.

Thats just my point of view anyway. If a girl is being a bitch 24/7, thats a different story I'll cut her out of my life because its not worth the effort. But if she only acts cold or rude one time I'll forgive her, after all she is only human and humans make mistakes.

thanks man,
I don't judge people who act cold or rude once or twice (if they apologize for it).
I don't know how to explain it's like she 'wants' me to not like her anymore.

It has happened with two other girls in the past so it's almost like some kind of a pattern here....
soemthing that stayed a mystery to me cause it never happened to me with guys.

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"a sniper is the worst romancer, he never makes the first move"

Hmmmm. This is pretty interesting but I'm gonna go ahead and possibly guess whats going on here. You say you aren't attracted to her, but how does she feel about you? She might secretly want you, after all you are only friends and that causes you to be unattached to the outcome. She might see that and want you even more, which is an awkward position to be in. I had this friend and she bought me crap, always texting me, and her friends always talked to me saying how I should hook up with her. I told them I don't feel ANY sexual attraction and I just want to be friends, but guess what happened? Yeah, this girl pursued me even more and she was needy as hell. Eventually what happened is she stopped talking to me because she couldn't fulfill her selfish desires. I lost a friendship, but it was all HER, not me. I didn't do anything.

It sounds like this girl liked you and once she realized you didn't like her in "that way" she decided that the friendship wasn't important. Like you said man, women are weird sometimes. It really doesn't matter that she had a boyfriend either. Girls are emotional creatures and they don't usually think rationally. Just my take on this situation. I find it hard to be friendly to some girls because then they start flirting and shit, and then I have to be the bad guy and tell them I don't think of them that way.

I am getting a sense of Deja Vu.. seriously

I am sure this exact experience has come up before with you recently and been answered here also. (different woman, same reaction)

It just smells similar to me.

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In building a statue, a sculptor doesn't keep adding clay to his subject.He keeps chiseling away at the inessentials until the truth of its creation is revealed without obstructions. Perfection is not when there is no more to add,but no more to take away.

The more you tell someone they cannot have something the more they want it.

People mostly want things they do not have, then when they have it they dont want it anymore

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In building a statue, a sculptor doesn't keep adding clay to his subject.He keeps chiseling away at the inessentials until the truth of its creation is revealed without obstructions. Perfection is not when there is no more to add,but no more to take away.

Keep on spittin' the gospel, 'Grinus!

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To sniper, read this topic again, thinking about the new situation: http://www.naturalfreedom.info/viewtopic.php?f=21&t=489

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In building a statue, a sculptor doesn't keep adding clay to his subject.He keeps chiseling away at the inessentials until the truth of its creation is revealed without obstructions. Perfection is not when there is no more to add,but no more to take away.

Good to know.

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"Simply put, you being in her life is a BLESSING. Her wronging you in any way is her own self-inflicted CURSE, and if she does wrong you, then let the punishment fit the crime. Her life will absolutely SUCK without you."

This has happened to me as well, and up until college I expected it from every woman because it happened with two particular women.

Why does it happen?
I don't want emotionally unstable people in my life so I'm not going to forgive them for pissing me off.

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Don't be sexist, bitches hate that.