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Author:  Sniper [ Tue Sep 28, 2010 3:26 am ]
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Hey Kidd,
I know you have talked about this before, but I wanted to clarify this a bit more...
I had a conversation with a married woman two days ago. During the conversation she was touching me a lot on the shoulder....

You said that it is one of the indicators that a woman is attracted to you (you talked about a few others as well....)

But my question is:
could it be that a woman is touching you just as a friendly gesture?

She is married after all (though I also remember that you said marriage is often 'Hooey' :mrgreen: )
Author:  The Kidd!! [ Tue Sep 28, 2010 9:03 pm ]
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How do you think the term 'affair' came about? It's time to put some of this naïveté away, my friend. :|
Author:  Sniper [ Tue Sep 28, 2010 9:40 pm ]
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The Kidd!! wrote:
How do you think the term 'affair' came about? It's time to put some of this naïveté away, my friend. :|
I guess you meant :naive?
Yea sometimes I'm naive :|

But you didn't answer my question:
could it be that a woman is touching you just as a friendly gesture?

I have more to say about this after you answer my question.... :geek:
Author:  peregrinus [ Tue Sep 28, 2010 10:38 pm ]
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Sniper wrote:
could it be that a woman is touching you just as a friendly gesture?
NO!

If it is at a point where you are noticing it, it is not by mistake.

Women are very aware of their personal space, a lot more so than men. They are also aware of how them touching someone else, especially a male is perceived.

Very extremely rarely do they touch someone without there being a reason. If it is repeated, then it is very unlikely to be by mistake, which means there must be a reason why she is doing it.

Observation Sniper :)

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OK, say she is touching you for a friendly reason, why is she friendly towards you? ask yourself that one instead.
Author:  Sniper [ Tue Sep 28, 2010 11:14 pm ]
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Ok, Thanks peregrinus

I'm using this as a learning experience :)
a few more points:
while she was touching me (a few times) her eyes were kind of glowing too.
Now that day she also gave me a hug when she met me and when we said goodbye.

So I have: hugs, eyes glowing, touching and a few more body postures that I also saw as indicators. Also her tone of voice was slow (but I don't know if she always speaks like that).

But here is the weird thing\or maybe not so weird :| :

I saw her today again....
Today: there was no hug, no touching, she was cold and tried to avoid me\talking to me....

Since nothing bad happened from the last time I saw her (a few days ago)
I guess she might be attracted to me but afraid of it....
Author:  The Kidd!! [ Wed Sep 29, 2010 2:08 am ]
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Quote:
I guess she might be attracted to me but afraid of it....
Now you're processing...continue down that road. 8-)
Author:  Sniper [ Wed Sep 29, 2010 2:19 am ]
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The Kidd!! wrote:
Now you're processing...continue down that road. 8-)
Sometimes due to years of ignorance you see good stuff happening to you and yet your mind refuses to beleive\accept it - so your head starts telling you stuff like:
'It's not what you think, it's just coincidence, it's all your imagination....'
you know?
stuff like that.....

But it's Ok. I'm willing to accept the new Me 8-)
even if the old me does not like it :geek:
Author:  The Kidd!! [ Wed Sep 29, 2010 3:09 am ]
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Sniper wrote:
The Kidd!! wrote:
Now you're processing...continue down that road. 8-)
Sometimes due to years of ignorance you see good stuff happening to you and yet your mind refuses to beleive\accept it - so your head starts telling you stuff like:
'It's not what you think, it's just coincidence, it's all your imagination....'
you know?
stuff like that.....

But it's Ok. I'm willing to accept the new Me 8-)
even if the old me does not like it :geek:
That sounds VERY familiar... ;) 8-)
Author:  Jared [ Wed Sep 29, 2010 10:30 am ]
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Sniper wrote:
But here is the weird thing\or maybe not so weird :| :

I saw her today again....
Today: there was no hug, no touching, she was cold and tried to avoid me\talking to me....

Since nothing bad happened from the last time I saw her (a few days ago)
I guess she might be attracted to me but afraid of it....
Yes, women are THIS aware, and intuitive. It doesn´t have to happen outside there, just inside you, that counts. They pick it up, especially when there´s a lot of intimate thoughts about woman. Intimacy/connection leaks through, it has to, or it wouldn´t be called intimacy/connection.

Married women. I always enjoy this touching, but as a man I have to set the boundaries, where it goes/stays.
Author:  Alchemist [ Wed Sep 29, 2010 11:00 am ]
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The Kidd!! wrote:
Sniper wrote:
The Kidd!! wrote:
Now you're processing...continue down that road. 8-)
Sometimes due to years of ignorance you see good stuff happening to you and yet your mind refuses to beleive\accept it - so your head starts telling you stuff like:
'It's not what you think, it's just coincidence, it's all your imagination....'
you know?
stuff like that.....

But it's Ok. I'm willing to accept the new Me 8-)
even if the old me does not like it :geek:
That sounds VERY familiar... ;) 8-)
Story of my life man, I'm in a similar situation, this woman in her 40s keeps touching me but she's insecure about her age, I'm gonna let her know soon enough that age is just a number. :D

To deny the goodness is to deny the TRUTH!!!!
Author:  peregrinus [ Wed Sep 29, 2010 7:23 pm ]
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Ok, just to make this clear
Sniper wrote:
while she was touching me (a few times) her eyes were kind of glowing too.
Now that day she also gave me a hug when she met me and when we said goodbye.

So I have:
hugs
eyes glowing
touching
a few more body postures that I also saw as indicators.
her tone of voice was slow
Let me put it this way, she gave you these signs that you noticed.
Together with probably countless others that you did not.

Then you did nothing.

Your choice, could be for many reasons and is valid, however FROM HER VIEW you did not respond to what she was giving out.
[It could be seen as a rejection, depending on her ego and state]
Sniper wrote:
Today: there was no hug, no touching, she was cold and tried to avoid me\talking to me....
Is it a surprise she was a bit colder towards you?
Author:  Sniper [ Wed Sep 29, 2010 7:27 pm ]
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peregrinus wrote:
Then you did nothing.
Well, she is married and her husband (in which I know) is a really nice man.
I don't want to mess around with a married woman that I know her husband....
Author:  peregrinus [ Wed Sep 29, 2010 7:32 pm ]
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Sniper wrote:
peregrinus wrote:
Then you did nothing.
Well, she is married and her husband (in which I know) is a really nice man.
I don't want to mess around with a married woman that I know her husband....
as I said:
peregrinus wrote:
Your choice, could be for many reasons and is valid
I was in no way saying you did something wrong (from your point of view).

Actually I agree with what you say above, totally :)

in regards to this:
Sniper wrote:
I guess she might be attracted to me but afraid of it....
Put this together with what I said.

She let it all hang out, she IS attracted to you on some level.

You did not respond, that puts her in a vulnerable place, for a woman. She might have reason to be afraid, especially if she likes you more than you like her. Which appears to be the case, looking at both of your actions.

She might also have thought about what she did and felt guilty. Talked about it with her friends, any number of options. For whatever reason, she was colder the second time. It does not mean she will stay that way.
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You have shown you have more control of yourself than her. That can both be a turn on and something which unsettles women.
Author:  The Kidd!! [ Wed Sep 29, 2010 8:40 pm ]
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I thank God for your presence on this board every day, 'Grinus. :mrgreen:
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