I'm out of college now and have the time to contemplate some of the larger questions and directions of my life.
As it stands, I'm coming into the point in my life where I have to make some life changing decisions.
How did you handle this point in your life?
Congrats on finishing college.
You're at a crossroad now. At this point u either make it or brake it, bro'. U either take a risk and become your own man, or get scared and hide, so to speak.
Move alone. Or with a roommate, but the point is to cut the connection and contact with your parents at least for a year. For a challenge, I suggest moving into a bigger city. Start fresh.
How would you suggest that a smoker go about entering physical fitness after quitting?
I'm finally reading the book Altair suggested about four or five months ago for quitting smoking because I'm out of school (that's how intensive my collegiate program was).
I have read Allen Carr - The Easy Way to Stop Smoking and it fucking worked. Idk and I don't care why, but it did.
I suggest finding the guy that has the physical health that u want and learn from him.
I'm also going to read David R. Hawkins "Let It Go", Adyashanti's, and others.
I was recently told to read the book "what color is your parachute." The CEO of an executive search firm suggested the book to me.
At this point, I know what I'm doing in the short term but have no long term vision.
What would you suggest as a way to plan for that?
U have to have a strong sense of purpose. Find your purpose. What are you here to do ? A true purpose is something that u do and doing it gives u the same amount of joy for the rest of your life. It's something that puts you in the moment and u don't give a fuck about time. Each and everyone has a purpose deep in our hearts. Search there. Find it and - the hardest part -> trully embrace it.
Mine is to paint. To paint the most beautiful things, to paint nature.. IN nature. ( search Bob Ross, that's my inspiration )
Also, how is it that in my sample size of women that I've talked to over last week and a half of conversations haven't given a damn that I've graduated from college? It's the first thing out of my mouth.
That statement is followed by I'm going to go to MIT, Carnegie Mellon, or Harvard for business school.
In my area, the college I went to is relatively unknown, which seems like a plausible expectation, but is a guy that's older than me--let's say 28-32--that much more enticing than me even if he has only a high school education?
How did u express it ? What was underneath the statement ? It was "trying to impress them" energy ? Or a genuine excitement of your hard work energy ? Is that what u talk about with the women ?
If u talk about that and I come in and introduce myself, look into her eyes, look her up and down at her body, tell her how good her parfume smells ( assuming her parfume smells good ), how I would love to meet her for a cup of coffee or tea, hand her my business card and walk away, who makes a bigger impact ? Who she will remember? Me or you ?
Also, why do u speak to women ? Especially beautiful women ? What is the end game ? To fuck them. That's the only reason we even speak to women, as men. Why aren't u honest about it ? If u want to fuck something but don't express it and let her know about your intention, u only lose respect for yourself, and she loses respect for you, also. Real men speak their minds!!!
"28-32--that much more enticing than me even if he has only a high school education?"
I will be 27 in august and I only have a high school education but you would say the same thing about me, too.
U can take care of yourself and your home, have a clean and welcoming "woman friendly" apartment, u can make yourself look good and sexy, u can have hobbies, u can read books and be intelligent and u can have a good social life regardless of your education. Trust me on this one.
I'm 23. I'll be 24 soon. Right now I give a couple fucks because I want to bust a graduation nut.
I had been working on it in the final days on campus after my last paper was finished, but I did not accomplish the goal.
Obviously my weight may have an impact because I'm 210 and only 6'1.
What I did to lose weight is stopped eating past 10:00 pm, stopped eating bread, drink only water, stopped eating carbohydrates ( snacks, all this type of shit ), stopped eating fast foods, rice, drastically reduce the amount of sugar I digest, I don't eat sweets, or very VERY rarely, and start eating more fish, chicken, fruits, vegetables, walk for a hour daily and exercise. In about 5, 6 months you will see results. I also do not drink alcohol neither smoke.
I hope this helps, but I have a feeling that u wouldn't do any of the stuff I just said.
Even though is common sense-ish.
What the hell do I know, right ?