Natural Freedom

The more I think of qualification - the more I think it is really about boundaries around giving.

I think much bitterness and resentment, and closedness results from giving to people that don't appreciate it, that take it for granted, or without giving back.

In my mind, it's a really a way of protecting your giving - so that you can give wholeheartedly - there are so many people that you could be giving to: giving your time, giving of your energy, giving your appreciation, acceptance, and care. Giving your body.

Qualification is necessary so that you can make an informed choice before giving of yourself to someone that doesn't value it.

IMHO it's all really about learning to be discerning so that you can give fully. I am thinking that there are many levels to qualification - the very first being whether they are interested in you. In a sense, observation is really in service of qualification.

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Continuing the stream of thought...

Some giving is really about yourself - like giving space, giving the freedom to choose, giving people an acceptance for their humanness regardless of their behaviour.

It's not something that I want to give conditionally, but to give unconditionally - in accordance with my own values. It is for me.

I will say that I think that relates to indifference. My way of behaving isn't conditional on someone else's bad behaviour.

And that doesn't mean not addressing bad behaviour.

In some ways I am reminded of Grinus post on gatekeepers of value [quote=peregrinus post_id=46045 time=15 ... ser_id=75]. Some things are given unconditionally - but some things like time and attention are very much conditional - scarce resources indeed.

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You may follow one stream. Know that it leads to the Ocean, but do not mistake the stream for the Ocean.