Connected sex, rejuvinates both parties and causes an escstatic bliss...
Unconnected sex is what your average person experiences. The man is trying to bust a nut. The woman is trying to cum before her 5 minute man busts a nut, both people are completely in their heads and it sucks in general.
I agree completely. This ironically is also why women find sex a let down, guys are so focussed on busting a nut that the woman gets an empty experience, heck they both do only the guy doesnt realise it. As below:
I have had hot sex before that was unconnected and afterwards, I was just thinking "Damn, I'd rather just squeeze my own damn pee pee. That was pointless." Doesn't make a difference how good it was...it wasn't really because it was glorified masturbation if anything and most guys will go through their entire lives seeking glorified masturbation. Sad, but true. The fact that these are most of the guys that women have to interact with shows you why there are so many hardened women in the world and I will be the first one to point the finger at these mother fuckers for being the ones that are making american women so hardened.
Connected sex is SOOOOOOO much better than having sex for sport. Most times, I would rather masturbate than have sex with someone I'm not really connected with...and I usually do have the option to do so. But, because I dread the before and after that comes with the doing, I'd usually much rather just rub one out and go to sleep.
For some reason, sport sex has not appealed to me, I have tried it and it left me with this big EMPTY feeling, something major was missing. I was basically masturbating using a living being and it felt empty.
I have spoken to guys who do sport sex regularly and they agree (ironically) however they are still caught up in the whole 'must chase pussy' thing. I tried to show them a different viewpoint, they were locked into theirs and closed to suggestion.
The connection to me is more important than the physical busting a nut.
Stopping/re-starting, building up, letting it fade a bit, building up again.. Playing around with the feelings and emotions flowing in both of you. Taking your time and savoring the experience not just the blow up at the end.
Brings to mind a conversation with a woman recently, who sat there amazed afterwards and said to me that it was such a different experience to what she was used to.
She said that most guys she had been with were in such a rush to fuck her that they would not take the time to enjoy the experience or ALLOW HER TO GIVE THEM PLEASURE.
She had spent quite a while playing with me, without me reciprocating, touching, blowjob, more touching... Teasing me up that hill... Knowing that I was not chasing the peak and was happy enjoying the experience. It was up to her to get me up the hill, she could take as long as she wanted, given free reign to play, knowing I would not jump in and start running up the hill and leave her behind.
She said she loved it, really loved it, being given the space to do that.
This is a reaction I am used to, it did not surprise me, that surprised her. She was like a kid who had discovered a new toy and could not stop playing with it (me) for the feelings she got from it.
This ties into Kidds comment here:
You are absolutely right about most people (men and women) being selfish in the sack...people are just self centered in general nowadays. But, I love this. Why? Because when these women (and they are the majority) run into me, and experience what it feels like to be properly lavished, ravished and fucked silly...they never want to let me go. A woman I deal with currently has said that I am the 1st guy who ever bothered to pull out and wait a little bit if I felt the nut coming on...every other man she has ever been with is, like you so eloquently put it, in a rush to get his nut.
This is something I get almost all the time after being with a woman. Some women along the way have even given this as a reason to keep away from me, they get this vibe that I am not chasing the nut beforehand and it scares the shit out of them [discussed in another thread]
I also equate this to an addictive cycle of chasing the peaks/rushes that most everyone does today vs. a constant wave of happiness that can underly what ever superfical emotions one is feeling.
When you chase the peak, you eventually have a crash.
I don't think it's important to have sex before you can realize what's written in this post. I'm a virgin and I understand it completely.