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The two main things that happened were

About 2 minutes after entering the club, this blond girl that was really short came up to me and waved. The main thing I'm noticing from not going out very much is that I'm super passive. The guy I came with was like you know her? And I said no, but rather than go talk to her I went to hang up my coat. Really passive.

And at the end of the night, getting in line for coat check. My friend introduced me to two girls, we talked about random stuff, shes a masters in psych so we talked about all that, where they're from, they ask me what i do, I nonchalantly mention that I work on a drilling rig. They're coming to get food with us after the the club, decline to come to a hot tub after. Everything is a done deal.
Then I over heard them be like to my friends partner well thank you anyways....not a done deal lol.

Lessons?

1. My social butterfly muscles have atrophed , my friends had to push me into every situation, and do the introductions.
2. Why those girls bailed is a mystery to me. No lessons observed.

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"The heart is deep beyond all things, and it is the man. Even so, who can know him."

They bailed because you were TOO passive lol...they couldn't sense any intent or interest at ALL.

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I assumed this would create intrigue, cuz they can't tell where he's coming from.

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"Simply put, you being in her life is a BLESSING. Her wronging you in any way is her own self-inflicted CURSE, and if she does wrong you, then let the punishment fit the crime. Her life will absolutely SUCK without you."

Yeah, but if you to at least give them an inkling that you might be interested...

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EVERYTHING in life is conditional...EVERYTHING.

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maybe..i was in a zen like state of non reactiveness though

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"The heart is deep beyond all things, and it is the man. Even so, who can know him."

Nothing wrong with that. Plenty of times I've gone out and I'm just happy to be out of the house. Conversely, when I got home I wasn't concerned about why I didn't land any fish either.

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EVERYTHING in life is conditional...EVERYTHING.

Pimposophy Revisited is now finally available on Amazon in all territories!

I need to find more of a balance though I think, I lost my mojo i guess would be the best word. Like when I used to walk into a club I had this I don't know how to describe it. But I have this really clear feeling all the time when I go out now, non-reactive and calm...but I don't care about anyone.

Edit: I wonder if that's the same principal that applies to club girls? Sometimes they're not being standoffish they really are just passive and put no intent out.

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"The heart is deep beyond all things, and it is the man. Even so, who can know him."

Good!

Now accept it.

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In building a statue, a sculptor doesn't keep adding clay to his subject.He keeps chiseling away at the inessentials until the truth of its creation is revealed without obstructions. Perfection is not when there is no more to add,but no more to take away.

what do you mean by accept it, he has not accept it yet and why?

It feels weaker though, its not the same as the stronger internal state I used to feel. You know what I mean?

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"The heart is deep beyond all things, and it is the man. Even so, who can know him."

I sense you are wary of fully accepting it...and that is what is holding you back. You must let it completely engulf you...fear not.

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EVERYTHING in life is conditional...EVERYTHING.

Pimposophy Revisited is now finally available on Amazon in all territories!

A little it feels like weakness, but I'll give it a try

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"The heart is deep beyond all things, and it is the man. Even so, who can know him."