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Damn, this post really did blow up. Rant, I get what you are saying and logically it makes sense, but logic alone can't solve the anxiety. I have OCD or something. I can't really explain it because it doesn't make sense, I just have trouble accepting things as they are, nothing ever feels right. So knowing I'm good looking doesn't really make me more confident. Neither does knowing a girl is attracted to me. I'm still working on this, maybe it's not OCD, but there is some sort of belief system that hold holds me back. Either way it's mostly unconscious and I can't consciously choose to feel a different way.

All you're doing is doubting yourself - it's not OCD, that's when you're obsessive about how your dishes are arranged in their cabinet. Letting go of insecurities, knowing your looks turn girls' heads, and then being nice and gentle enough to snag her hears, and genuine enough to win her heart is all you need to work on. One thing at a time - begin with looking in the mirror, seeing what you feel is wrong, and then why you think so. Then, tell yourself that it's okay...

you were Born This Way

If you can't be happy with parts of you, nobody can be. BE HAPPY WITH THESE FEATURES!! You are you, and that's a confident, suave guy who just needs a pick-me-up now and again to get on a roll. Go get 'em!

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I don't know if you have OCD but from the little I know on the subject, OCD can come in different forms...
It could be as LM said (for example: obsessive about how your dishes are arranged in their cabinet), worrying a lot about things like hygiene in an unrealistic way and another form of OCD could be: over perfectionism and a pattern of thinking that: nothing is good enough unless it is always perfect.
If OCD is what you have then take care of it before it takes care of you...

I know a little bit about this because I used to have a friend who suffered from it for many years.

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don't push yourself too much as accepting everything as rule, you have anxiety wich means that your body reacts to external situations, accept this "nobody really cares about your condition(if you really have this condition or maybe you are giving meaning to somthing that maybe it's not a big deal) so don't take things that people say or do as personal threats to you, so you don't have to payback or in case of girls saying that you are good looking you don't need to compensate them for that, only if you want, not a rule"

acceptance and leting go it's not a rule, it's not that the external situation is bad and acceptance it's not saying to yoursellf that everything is ok, anxiety is horrible and takes time to make it dissapear but don't look for the quick fix.

Thanks for the replies.

L!ttleMonster, I agree with the doubting myself. I've doubted myself my whole life, it's probably just a bad habit that I need to work on.

Sniper, I've got some form of over perfectionism that I have to keep in check a lot. I've been able to feel better about a lot of things but it still sneaks up on me sometimes. I'm probably just too demanding of myself.

Rant, thanks for your input. I'm trying not to think so much about this stuff because I always tend to over analyze. I find that sometimes I do push myself too much and I create more problems.

A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.

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