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I'm having this question in my mind. I don't know if it's a limiting belief. I don't know what it is...but here it goes.

I'm as average as one can get...at most. I'm 5'7, average penis size, I look like I'm 16-17 although I'm 22, I'm broke (student), I am average looking at most. My question is...why would a super-good looking girl go for a guy like me when she has so many options? (guys that are taller, better looking, have bigger dicks, more money etc) I do have the right mindset of not worrying about it and not acting like she's the bomb and I'm nobody (which would make me seek approval or be extremely shy which sucks)...but still... why would she go for someone like me when she can probably have Mr.-close-to-perfect?

This is a limiting belief.

The cure:

Change your story. Into something like that:

"I'm as awesome as one can get. Women just love my younger looks and my size. I am such an attractive guy and women find me irresistible. Etc."

Change your story into positive, empowering phrases. Make your weaknesses your strenghts. And again: Make your weaknesses your strenghts. You think you're not tall enough? Then change it to, women love my size, or something like that.

But before you change it, get into yourself and ask you why you feel like that about yourself. Maybe someone told you this or you saw it in movies/magazines that being tall = women. Bring awareness to your beliefs and they lose their power over you.

Quit daydreamin and get yer shit straight.

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IulianC,

have you not listened to David X?
why are you thinking for them?

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"a sniper is the worst romancer, he never makes the first move"

Is this 'mr close to perfect' really that.. He likely has many flaws, which will surface given time.

I am sure if you sat down with a sheet of paper and a pen you could come up with many POSITIVE things to say about yourself, instead of the negatives you list here.

Lets start with the main one:
You can connect with her and will treat her like a person not a princess

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Ok, i'll start with your list:
22 - What is wrong with this.. if you look younger, then good, that is a positive.
5'7 - Good height, not really small not really big.
Avg Penis - This means what it says, average - what is wrong with that. She will feel it, it could be worse, it could be 1" and not get in there.
broke - MONEY DOES NOT MATTER, not on a core level, it is an indicator.. You are a student which shows potential and that you are working to better yourself, that shows a future which is far more relevant.
(I am broke now, I will not be in the future.. The broke is because I am putting effort into bettering my future rather than earning money now)

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In building a statue, a sculptor doesn't keep adding clay to his subject.He keeps chiseling away at the inessentials until the truth of its creation is revealed without obstructions. Perfection is not when there is no more to add,but no more to take away.

@Dr Awesome - You sound like Cory Skyy... ok, having positive mindsets is pretty cool and it helps...but you have to have something to back it up. A sumo wrestler with Cory's "magnetic mindset" would still be a fat sumo wrestler...who lives in this fantasy world that he's Brad Pitt. You don't create your reality in all aspects... and thinking that you're the most irresistible guy in the world only makes you seem like a douchebag. Thinking that women will be ok with it is a more realistic approach.

@Kidd - sorry man, I like you but your advice is totally useless. You didn't address my question at all...

@Sniper - Why do you say I'm thinking for them? I don't know what they're thinking... I'm just asking a pretty logical question based on everyday life...

@peregrinus - ok, I get your point...appreciate yourself for other things.

Iulian...I have never in my life known anyone who was so preoccupied with his dick size. If you would read other threads, I already gave the advice you need: Accept what you can't change as work like hell to change what you can.

Your dick size is NOT GOING TO CHANGE...LET IT GO.

That said, you never know who is going to like what...so stop beating yourself up with limiting behavior and enjoy life. Celebrate the fact that you beat that serious illness of yours and LIVE!

Edit: Sorry I was short with you, Iulian...but you just frustrate me. It's been almost 2 years since I popped up in Zan's forum...and you are STILL asking the same dumbass questions like they are brand new and STILL preoccupied with your teeny weenie. Have you really learned nothing at all in the last 2 years except to keep on defending your false idol?

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I don't really know how to explain it. Some things are just hard to explain in words.....

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"a sniper is the worst romancer, he never makes the first move"

Thats why I said you have to explore your limiting beliefs at their roots and then let them go. If a sumo wrestler who has self-issues would do that he would take other steps in his life much easier and maybe automatically. Because he wouldn't beat himself up about it anymore. He would accept that he has issues at the moment and could start a new life from that point. If he doesn't let go of the beliefs that brought him there in the first place he maybe would force himself with a big struggle to change and chances are high that he falls back into his old behaviors.

And as Kidd says, you're dealing with height or aesthetical issues about yourself that you can't change. Therefore make peace with yourself and accept what you can't change and try to love yourself and give yourself the appreciation you deserve no matter how you look.

Maybe I can explain this, thinking for them basically means that since you ASSUME they wouldn't go for you because (insert false assumption here) and that belief is so strong it LOOKS LIKE they don't in your everyday life, I have this problem too but I'm getting over it, yesterday all the ladies at work were giving me compliments, even ones that don't normally talk to me, confirmations like that help chisel away the bullshit beliefs.

You believe you don't have any redeeming qualities dude but YOU DO, everyone does, comparing yourself to rich guys, bad boys, men with 20" dicks etc....that's just gonna make you feel like shit dude, I hope you realize soon enough how much time you're wasting feeling sorry for yourself.

Beliefs have such an impact in your everyday life you have no idea how vital it is to dig deep and tackle that shit, I know you've tried but you really have to put more effort into it, looking back over the years I've managed to do away with some more harmful beliefs about myself and the world, the difference in my attitude between then and now is astounding, a few years back I quit smoking entirely by will power alone, haven't touched a cancer stick since.

Even in the last year things have changed, I went from being a skinny dude to gaining muscle and I didn't even realize I was physically attractive until a year ago, despite many compliments over the years, I was the only one getting in my way, Kidd helped me realize that.

And like he said, you've overcome a serious illness, that alone is something to be proud of that this shit with women pales in comparison to, you're a certified bad-ass bro, take it in.

Your question is only a logical question asked from the lens of your limiting belief.

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"Simply put, you being in her life is a BLESSING. Her wronging you in any way is her own self-inflicted CURSE, and if she does wrong you, then let the punishment fit the crime. Her life will absolutely SUCK without you."

thanks Alchemist

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"a sniper is the worst romancer, he never makes the first move"

there is aguy with a 2 inches dick that made a porn site and he fucks pornstars

I'm not 100 percent certain but I do think fat sumo wrestlers are like celebrities in their country sooooo they probably get laid a lot.

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EVERYTHING in life is conditional...EVERYTHING.

Pimposophy Revisited is now finally available on Amazon in all territories!

You think too much

Do what you can about yourself, then act, don't think about it. You will be surprised as fuck with what will happen !

@fufe - "fufe" means "bitches"/"hoes" in Romanian ))

Thanks.

@freespirit - you got my point... if they move to Russia they are just some fat lazy bastards. I've given the wrong example indeed.

@Kidd - Nope, I didn't post stuff like this on NG.com. I asked a pretty valid question...again. I had my shit together at times (in certain periods of my life) but no matter how I was there were always some better looking guys who got all the female attention. If you don't like my questions and think they're "dumbass questions" and want to bitch at my every post just ignore everything I post. Are you trying to win the "forum douche-bag award" by calling my dick "teenie weenie"? ) Let go of Zan dude...you'll end up on magazine's covers too one day...Jesus! Seriously dude...you bitch about my posts more than you give valid advice.

I didn't asked you people how to let go of limiting beliefs. I just asked you why would someone with many options go for someone average when they can have someone that's above average...

So what I got from this is... let go, accept yourself and settle for the girls that go for you... also accepting that you might never have the same success rate as taller better looking guys.

@Alchemist - no I haven't overcome shit... I'm worse! And no, I never got the attention you're getting...no matter how good I looked. You don't have the belief that you're good looking so your actual looks are the cause. (like in all cases)

@rant - stop watching sexual humiliation porn and give it as an example ) There are websites that are specifically made to promote crazy situations like really small dicks or really really fat guys... because what's not normal sells and people pay money to see weird shit. People watch child-porn because it's out of the ordinary and because they're a bit sick. Same thing about the website you mentioned... it's mostly made for humiliation and for the guys that have that problem... because many porn addicts are guys with small dicks... Women in real life would not go for guys with 2 inch dicks...

I had to reply but I don't wanna start discussions about dicks. Those of you who started bitching about me writing about dick size are totally missing the point of this thread. And no Kidd, you CAN make your dick bigger. I know some guys who did that. You can add 1-2 inches by natural methods...some guys can even more but with a lot of dedication and the right genetics. For personal reasons I can't so I have to settle with what I have.

Again... the purpose of this thread was.... Why would hot women go for me when there are many better looking taller etc guys in their lives to chose from? Why do I ask this? BECAUSE IT FUCKING HAPPENED...A LOT! I'm here to change that if I can ...at least partially.... but it seems like all I get is bitching and people making fun of me.

Is that what you got from this?
I give up.....

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"a sniper is the worst romancer, he never makes the first move"

@Sniper - What should I have gotten out of what you guys wrote?

You told me to not think about what she's thinking... this is useless advice because it's a rule to have ON THE DATE...not at home. At home you can think whatever you like as long as you don't internalize core negative beliefs. It's good to NOTICE when things are not going how you'd like them to go...

<Therefore make peace with yourself and accept what you can't change and try to love yourself and give yourself the appreciation you deserve no matter how you look.> Probably the only good piece of advice I got here...

Now what conclusions can I draw, Sniper...besides getting comfortable with myself and accepting the fact that the women that I like in many cases will go after the more "attractive" guys?...just like Adriana Lima rejects you and hooks up with George Clooney...

@Alchemist - I can believe I'm attractive... and still not get checked out as much as they check you even though you DON'T believe you're good looking.

I DON'T ASSUME they wouldn't go for me...that's stupid and I never do that. That's like shooting yourself in the leg and then trying to play soccer. I draw conclusions when I'm home. You can't say you're an excellent soccer coach when your team gets its ass kicked with 20-0.

I didn't get compliments over the years... mm... the best compliment I got was "you're not ugly" and 2 or 3 girls said I was good looking (in 22 years) ....instead....I got hundreds of "Are you his little brother?" when hanging out with classmates... I'm constantly hearing stuff like "22? I thought you were like 16" ... and I constantly notice other guys being called good looking and sexy by girls...

It would be a limiting belief if I would say "I can't get girls because X". Anyone can get girls... the things is I want more choice... like a Spanish player who wants to play for Barcelona...is this about limiting beliefs? No, it's about selection. No matter how much you're the prize and confident and indifferent and so on...women still have to "select" you.

Now who did you get that advice to go to the gym from?

@Kidd -> I wonder where I heard that before.... "Accept what you can't change and work like hell to change what you can." AAA...I know... it's my friend Amadeus Hellequin (Harlequin) from NG.com . He had it as a signature. "When you don't accept what you can't change that's insanity...when you change what you can't accept, that's revolution."

<That said, you never know who is going to like what...so stop beating yourself up with limiting behavior and enjoy life. Celebrate the fact that you beat that serious illness of yours and LIVE!> I'm not beating myself with limiting behavior... I'm just asking what can I do to increase my attractiveness...

Let me give you an analogy. My name is Jose Santos and I'm a soccer player...I'm 28 (not young anymore)...and I play in the Spanish Segunda Division (2nd Spanish League). I always wanted to play for Real Madrid or Barcelona or some other Primera Division team..and I've heard that some of them need an offensive midfielder...and guess what...I'm an offensive midfielder. So I go to Barcelona... they pick Busquets cause they find him better... I go to Real Madrid...they pick Iniesta cause they find him better... I go to Racing Santander, Real Sociedad, Atletico Madrid... and the same thing happens. I'm just not good enough to play in Primera. Now what do i do? I settle for my Segunda Division team? (that's what I meant by settling with women... ) (BTW, I never say I'm not good enough for her... I say it didn't worked for whatever reason... "not good enough for her" makes me feel like shit... but in reality, no matter how it feels...it's pretty close to reality)

Sometimes the limiting belief is simply an acknowledgment of reality. The problem is when it's exaggerated. If you're 5 ft tall and think you're a tall guy you're an idiot...

I could always get girls...but those girls weren't the girls I was REALLY attracted to... I'm looking for an alternative to lowering my standards.

He got the gym advice from me, you pompous twit.

Just because Amo had it in his sig doesn't mean he invented and copyrighted the concept. There's of LOT of things I have yet to even speak on yet...and when/if I finally do, I'm sure some young punk like you will say that I got it from Cory, or Brent, or David X...just like they did when I first arrived at NG.com.

I can't help that shit nor do I care.

The guys here have bent over backwards to help your self righteous, retarded, small dick havin' ass...and all you do is disregard it, attempt to discredit it, and then attempt to dish out your own advice. Let me hip you to something...

YOU ARE NOT IN A POSITION TO GIVE ANY ADVICE AT ALL...except maybe health wise.

So go troll elsewhere.

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EVERYTHING in life is conditional...EVERYTHING.

Pimposophy Revisited is now finally available on Amazon in all territories!

that was not my point

no need for the brlliant speech about porn and how it works

why are you so "attention whore"?