May catch some flak for this since it's a specific woman and I know most say we're not supposed to mess with women at work, but I do recall The Kidd!! mentioning it was alright if your contract was airtight and you knew what you were doing. I wasn't actively practicing observation lately, but a chick I work with who's pretty cute has been showing interest.
I'm kind of at a loss at how to deal with this since this hasn't happened to me to this extent before.
She just started working at my job a few weeks ago and has recently broken up with her ex-boyfriend, who's a friend, and classmate of mine. She was jocking me before then but I never really made much of it. A co-worker had mentioned she had been having some relationship problems but I wasn't sure.
There was an interaction I had with them when we all met in a store. She had come with my friend and her father was hanging around the area as well. I didn't know that had broken up at this time and I'd assumed her ex was close to the family since he knew her dad. Anyway, as we walked through the shop I spend most of the time talking with him, occasionally and interacting with the girl. This is because I knew him more and really didn't have much to say to the girl without feeling like I would look stupid. She had a habit of making me nervous.
Anyway, my friend and I are shooting the shit and eventually I find a notebook about planning pregnancy. I show my friend and tell them that they gonna need this soon. He laughs and shows the girl, who gives us the stank face and says "We're not even dating." my friend takes mock offense, and I found the situation hilarious.
Interesting enough this friend is a mirror of me. We're not exactly the same and we look different, but I mean psychologically. He appears to have more social competence, but I've noticed we share some of the same habits, like procrastination or half-assing stuff.
Ever since that store interaction, she has been touching me more around the workplace. It started out as innocent touches on the arm, slight brushes past each other or close near misses. But as I reciprocated, she's gotten bolder with arm touches and playful punches. I felt like I overdid it a few times, for example grabbing her by arm to pull her in close (gently) but she didn't mind and reciprocated back in a different way, trying to block my path with a full arm.
She's asked me to walk with her to places in the workplace and take my breaks with her. I notice her eyeing me with her peripherals a lot when I approach, and she gives me a weird (Shy?) smile when I see her from a distance when we are busy and can't communicate. Our interactions are never that long as I try not to hound her because of my nervousness issue.
I remember a moment where I jokingly asked her to buy me something from a vending machine and she offered to. She even insisted when I said I was kidding. I told her to give me the money for free and she did. After I pocked the dollar, I asked her why give it and she said she didn't know.
She had asked me about religion at some point, asking if I was Christian and discussing some of her beliefs. Basically, she felt if you drink, you'd go to hell or something like that.
I asked her to explain and more detail and she backpedaled a bit, it think she meant 'drink in excess,' but she couldn't explain what she felt clearly. That had me wonder if she would be the religious type and a pain to work with.
I forget who initiates our conversations the most, think it's pretty balanced but I feel like I say "Hi" more. That doesn't mean I try to talk to her all the time though. Our interactions are give and take, neither side willing to concede to the other.
That leads to this:
About a week ago we were having a conversation about dating with another female co-worker. She mentions how she's dealing with a guy who's hot and a little bit older who wanted to settle down. Presumably annoyed about her last relationship, she mentions how she doesn't want to be stuck with someone right now; she's not dating. I ask if she's playing the field, causing my female co-worker to break up with laughter. She says I look like the type to play the field, girl must be projecting, I barely have any experience.
Interesting to note that since she has stopped dating my friend, she has dyed and straightened her hair. Her hair was sandy blonde, now it's black with a blue-ish tint. She told me she messed it up and hated it. I said I like it. Asked her if she was entering a new phase in life.
Later after that convo I ask if she wants to hangout the next day and she says sure. We write down and exchange numbers. I tell her to call me. She asks why I smirk and tell her "to see if you're serious." She huffs seemingly in a mix of exasperation and amusement. I falter a bit here and fill space asking her later if she really would do it but she says yes.
Next day, wanting to see her I let impatience get the best of me again and text her my info first. She calls an hour later. I text her back asking if that was indeed her, but I get no response.
When I see her again, she mentions that she had actually lost my number and wasn't sure who was contacting her. I tell her that she had called my phone but she said she didn't yet. So I attributed that phone call to a mistake; she had mentioned that she sleeps with her phone close by, so it could have been an accident.
I was pissed she didn't follow through but whatever, things are normal and we still interact. We still touch each other. The last day I saw her that week, as she was walking away from me she tickled a male co-worker's hips with both hands from behind. My co-worker turned around and said something akin to: "That's a little dirty." To which she responded. "I treat everyone like that."
That was interesting. I wondered if she was thinking of my attention at that time, they were close but not that close by. It was possible that what she did had nothing to do with me.
Later on that day, as I walked past her, I grabbed her by the arm a little more forcefully than I intended to and this bitch proceeded to forcefully bump and rub her ass on me, I fucking nearly fell over.
So. She wants to fuck. Great. Don't really know how to go about it though. I haven't texted her at all since then. I guess interact as usual?