I have been back in contact with 2 girls that I know for quite some time. With both girls the connection seems just as strong as it was back then.
The first one was a fling for a good hot minute! and I will have to figure out and reflect on where I went wrong with this and make adjustments should I choose to, but most likely not because she now has 2 kids.
She’s recently divorced and basically head boss Bitch. I was in class when she texted me out the blue I was honestly shocked and wasn’t expecting it at all. We met up in a restaurant and it was like no time passed since we last saw one another.
She even made it her business to help me get back on my feet and start making boo koo money in a more efficient way!
So far things are cool and leveled. She has even been a bit more proactive on inviting me out on her free time. Don’t know what will happen next but considering doing the horizontal is not a priority I will just be skating around on this and see how it goes from there.
This one goes back deeper but I will keep it current because I really hate typing for long periods of time. But since we have met back up in both of our home state it seems there was this underlying chemistry between us I felt it and I have been copping evidence she felt the same.
I reached out to her because honestly I wanted to see more of the world. I wanted to experience all of life and she basically done just that and for low cost traveling and finding places to stay for awhile which were also low cost. The day of we were supposed to meet she canceled because she got sick, this is the part my sensei and Tha Kidd! talked about, inserting genuine empathy.
I wished her a good recovery and to take care (she called it a date I was just thinking about it as a meet up) {2nd sign of evidence}.
She stays close by and she actually wanted to meet in person and talk about it. {1st sign of evidence}
I reached out the next week once only, I remember she broke up with her last boyfriend because apparently he was needy. I waited until the following Monday and reached out again I remember she had health issues so I thought it was serious so I was genuinely a little more concerned. (Only once)
Since I didn’t hear back from her at all both weeks I had to let it go and move on and figure out another method. Again I didn’t want her to perceive that I am needy and portray with action that I will figure out another way.
I was beginning to think she really flaked on me because I think the second week she started posting on social media about every damn day. So in my head if she was going to do that and not have the decency to acknowledge me, someone who genuinely wanted to know if she was still breathing; that was a headache I am glad didn’t work out.
Just last week exactly she texts me apologizing she didn’t get back to me because she really needed breathing room. I acknowledge this but I say less and she says more (space). She is even more excited about the meet up.
Today “I reached out to confirm” the appointment. One she “forgot “ to let me know but also to validate and gauge how excited she is about said date. Apparently she is very excited still and even sent a Purple Heart.
So Tomorrow its on I will genuinely do the things she suggests and if I see just as strong evidence in person I will find a to subtly insert myself and get a little more involved.