Pay attention to the subtlety of everything. You're getting to a point in your development where everything you experience can be seen at a more subtle level if you really pay attention. I would advise you not to resist feeling the desire to chase, recognize it's there and then move into logic. Logically you know from past experience that chasing doesn't work. And if you don't know this logically then you will continue to do so until you prove it to yourself. Since giving up chasing a year ago, I chased many times on subtle levels and also sometimes overtly. I would often delude myself that I wasn't chasing when doing so subtlely and beat myself up when doing so overtly...the takeaway should just be to recognize the desire to chase when it comes up, allow it to be there, and choose not to act on it bc logically you know it's a bad play that only causes more suffering and perpetuates neediness. If you do however find yourself chasing, recognize it and accept it, accept the pain it causes, and choose to consciously do the opposite going forward. This is a process of undoing a program that has been hardwired into you from pretty much every angle for most of your life.
I still to this day seeing myself wanting to chase. I see my ego attempting to make choices for me to go to place A over place B or C bc there is a girl at place A that my ego wants to interact with even from afar. I just logically choose not to follow that line of reasoning as it is purely emotional. Sometimes I will end up at place A but only if it's the most logical choice for me with no regard for what females may or may not be there.
The key to the game that men have to get down is this: Society has set up the game so the woman just walks around and subtlely flirts with you, baits you as Grinus put it. She draws you into her world and gets you to submit your manhood to her at which point 1 of 2 things happens.
A) She becomes immediately bored with you bc you were absolutely no challenge to her in the game she's playing and she dismisses you or flakes on you if you get her number
B) She realizes how easily you will submit to her and she makes you her little puppy dog/toy that she manipulates and plays games with for her own amusement
Thank you very much for the answer, I experience the same stuff, the same process, the same ego feelings.
Since neither of those options are fun nor do they make me feel good I simply choose not to play the game on her terms. However, 99% of guys do play the game on her terms so when she meets a guy who doesn't, she often has no idea how to respond to you. She will often find herself drawn to you but have no idea how to enter your world due to her own fears and limitations and what she's been taught about the game. Many women will jock you but slip through the cracks so to speak. That's great, you can't fuck them all and the ones that slip through weren't meant for you anyway. If you must submit your manhood and integrity to her just to get laid, she isn't worth fucking anyway so you just logically choose to let her go. The ones that are meant for you are the ones that step into your world and submit to you. Most girls need to feel you out for a bit before they will do this so often this is going to be girls you come into contact with frequently and will happen over time. At some point when you reach a higher level, girls will do this energetically and you can do things that right now would seem like chasing but at a higher level aren't bc you don't actually care what happens. Until you reach a level where you really don't care though, I would personally recommend not bothering to interact with any girl that doesn't come into your space. The process of learning to be content with yourself, your desires, and emotions completely separate from any circumstance occurring outside yourself is much more important than learning some advanced game that is possible to play and on some levels will work by itself...it is infinitely more powerful with the strong foundation of being able to let go of any desire to achieve a certain outcome or result and that only comes from getting very comfortable with yourself and enjoying how you feel regardless of what is happening around you.
I understand that the ones who even if are jocking lack attentions aka slips through the cracks, I have to kick to the game (seems the case of the woman of this topic).
I underlined a key step in your words. You said the ones who step into my world.
Sorry for the dumb question: how do I know who are the ones that are stepping into my world? I mean, logically.
Not energetically, I mean I can sense, feel a woman is jocking on gut level and then observe her actions and "number" how many jocks she is doing...like I said a part older women and kids who can say hi, smile, come close and even sit next to me, the women between 20s to 40s can stare at me, gaze me, look at me up and down, took pictures of me with their cellphone, have some weird nervous reactions if I am passing close to them, but all only from distance. Maybe I should not look at them back in the eyes? I don't know....man, I don't understand.
How do I know who are the ones that are stepping into my world? I mean, logically.
Please explain it better, thank you (again).