Fufe, it sounds like you need to spend time away from women and fall in love with yourself. When you no longer are thinking about how to x,y or z women...they will start thinking about how to x, y or z you.

You need non-attachment/enlightenment?

I don't get that, personally I need to loose weight. Without a six pack I just won't be able to get the girls, also I hate diet and exercise, don't even ask. Or X, I need to get X before I can Y, Ying without an X may be possible for other people, as shown with abundant examples, but I am not like them. What should I do?

Fufe this all sounds like a 'symptom' to something much much deeper!!

I could be wrong, but I feel like I'm not.

Also, this is a projection, I know that, because I'm dealing with a similar situation myself and reading the tone of your message is what gave me the feeling that it is similar...

Of course it is. In the end it doesn't change the fact that it is stored there as a belief, that is causing all that suffering.

Do not inform truth what it should be or do for you

If something can't be measured than it doesn't exist.

I'm getting to this point in "trusting the process".

Paradoxically, in my case the more I tried the farther it got away from me.

Other said it here: give yourself space. I really think that I've done what I could do in gathering the info from here, now it's time to let it go and let it do its thing.

Allow myself the space to let things unfold...because what I've been doing hasn't worked.

Does that make sense?