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PostPosted: Thu Oct 08, 2015 5:56 pm 
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I don't really text much and when it's with girls it's usually for logistics. It seems like some of you guys have conversations with chicks and are successful with it. I just don't do it cause it never seemed to work for me. I feel like I'm to cold in my convos.


(I got this number from an approach I made on a school classmate)

Day 1:

F:This is Flux
G: Got it!
F:Hey, what days do you have the most free time?
G:Hey! and probably Thursday's are my best days.
F:Alright, sounds good

Day 2:

F:Hey (Name) What's up?
G:Hey! I'm at the doctors office! What about you?
F:I just got out of class, have some downtime. You at the office near school?
G:Yeah!
F:Cool. Wanna meet at the cafe around (Time)?
G:I have to go back to my apartment when I get done here and I don't know what time that will be! I'm sorry!
F:That's fine. I'm working but I don't think I'll be too busy today. Let me know if you're free.
G:Where do you work?
F:(Place)
G:You're lying! that's my favorite (Place) in the whole wide world
F:Lol, you should come by I'll give you a special discount
G:I will have to do that sometime! That's awesome
F:Haha don't quote me on the discount though
G:Haha I'm not!


Anyway this is fine right? I'm leaving it there since I'm not really expecting anything, plus I see her in class anyway.

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 Post subject: Re: Texting
PostPosted: Thu Oct 08, 2015 6:39 pm 
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Flux wrote:
I don't really text much and when it's with girls it's usually for logistics. It seems like some of you guys have conversations with chicks and are successful with it. I just don't do it cause it never seemed to work for me. I feel like I'm to cold in my convos.


(I got this number from an approach I made on a school classmate)

Day 1:

F:This is Flux
G: Got it!
F:Hey, what days do you have the most free time?
G:Hey! and probably Thursday's are my best days.
F:Alright, sounds good



... and the definite place and time for the date to take place over the phone with real human voice.
That's all. (w/ a classmate, hmm?)

You're making it harder than it has to be.

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 Post subject: Re: Texting
PostPosted: Thu Oct 08, 2015 8:27 pm 
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+1 on the making it harder.

Also bear in mind the context:
You are the one initiating the conversation.

You are the one keeping it going and steering it towards logistics.

You are asking her out. She's quite aware of this.

To me it makes no sense to be the one initiating / pursuing her (you are) and then try to act like that's not the dynamic. The words don't matter, only the dynamic does. "Oh I'm just super chill and totally whatever about this, I'm not really asking you out or anything, I'm just randomly texting you first trying to find out all the times you are free and suggesting we meet up during those times. Now here's a comment trying to entice you to come hang out with me by saying I'll give you a discount."

Things that are fun / work well with a girl who is into you and proactively engaging, rarely, maybe never? apply when that is not the vibe.

I honestly think it's 100x better to just ask her out in those cases, than be part of story after story of guy who is trying to appear like he's not doing exactly what he's doing. It's not about some rule like it is impossible to have something happen with a girl if you do or don't do xyz. It's more about just cutting the unnecessary nonsense in both what you are saying to her and to yourself.

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 Post subject: Re: Texting
PostPosted: Thu Oct 08, 2015 9:18 pm 
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I see what you guys are saying. Yeah that would be faster honestly. Jared I don't like calling since it hasn't worked in my experience.


Jared wrote:
(w/ a classmate, hmm?).


What?

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 Post subject: Re: Texting
PostPosted: Thu Oct 08, 2015 9:41 pm 
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Flux wrote:

Anyway this is fine right? I'm leaving it there since I'm not really expecting anything, plus I see her in class anyway.


It would be great if you learn to not let the system to be your guide, probably not the rigth word but is the one that i have in mind.


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 Post subject: Re: Texting
PostPosted: Fri Oct 09, 2015 12:19 pm 
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Flux wrote:
F:Lol, you should come by I'll give you a special discount
G:I will have to do that sometime! That's awesome

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 Post subject: Re: Texting
PostPosted: Fri Oct 09, 2015 1:24 pm 
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Actually being indifferent to the outcome seems like it would be a hell of a lot easier than managing your texting so you appear to be.

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 Post subject: Re: Texting
PostPosted: Fri Oct 09, 2015 3:59 pm 
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Yes my friend, your gut - listening and feeling will make it clear to you what is happening, and what needs to happen next. Take note of why 'Grinus highlighted the part he did. It shows that the conversation inside of yourself is 1000x more interesting than the one in the text convo, and that's the one that has the answers.

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 Post subject: Re: Texting
PostPosted: Fri Oct 09, 2015 11:14 pm 
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Flow83 wrote:
It shows that the conversation inside of yourself is 1000x more interesting than the one in the text convo, and that's the one that has the answers.


Flow, how are you coming to this conclusion? I don´t see it.

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 Post subject: Re: Texting
PostPosted: Sat Oct 10, 2015 12:30 am 
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How we respond, or don't respond to things tells a whole story. Not the words, but where you are steering the ship, where you take things and then abandon them, what clear openings you miss or don't take, how clear and simple vs. meandering and obtuse. That's all about what's going on with you, and it will get communicated no matter how much you are trying to come across. That convo is richer than texting about school and work.

Should say 'to me' though as I can't speak for 'Grinus' reason(s). There's plenty there.

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 Post subject: Re: Texting
PostPosted: Sat Oct 10, 2015 11:45 am 
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Flux wrote:
I see what you guys are saying. Yeah that would be faster honestly. Jared I don't like calling since it hasn't worked in my experience.


Jared wrote:
(w/ a classmate, hmm?).


What?


Well, you're not exactly >just the two of you> just yet. :idea:

Texting with women, (the very first message) :

1) Set a date and meet up. If she says she is busy, then just
2) Tell her to look up a time when she is free and tell her to contact YOU.

If she doesn't call or text you, then you will have other dates.
A woman who is interested, will call you. Yep, that's it.

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 Post subject: Re: Texting
PostPosted: Sat Nov 07, 2015 5:28 pm 
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Quote:
"Texting is good 4 the English language."


David Crystal on Texting:
10min55sec

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h79V_qUp91M

Quote:
Crystal is a proponent of a new field of study, Internet linguistics, and has published Language and the Internet (2001) on the subject.[16] Crystal's book Txtng: The Gr8 Db8 (2008) focused on text language and its impact on society.


https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/David_Crystal

This man looks like science ! ! !

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 Post subject: Re: Texting
PostPosted: Tue Nov 10, 2015 10:28 am 
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Value

Where do the scales sit? to the left or to the right?

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 Post subject: Re: Texting
PostPosted: Fri Dec 11, 2015 5:58 pm 
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I'm not feelin it :?

An example of mine for contrast 8-) :

Image

Image

See the difference? :geek:

Misses = her period ;)

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 Post subject: Re: Texting
PostPosted: Sun Dec 13, 2015 4:05 am 
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And the Master returns....Welcome back.

I've been dropped this but, yeah, I was reaching from the start. I didn't get any tells from her anyway.

Looking over your text she put in the most work and it was her opportunity to figure how to meet with you. Yup.
Thanks, will look this over for reference.

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 Post subject: Re: Texting
PostPosted: Sun Dec 13, 2015 4:50 am 
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Flux wrote:
And the Master returns....Welcome back.

I've been dropped this but, yeah, I was reaching from the start. I didn't get any tells from her anyway.

Looking over your text she put in the most work and it was her opportunity to figure how to meet with you. Yup.
Thanks, will look this over for reference.


It's great to be back :D

When I approached her, I made sure I did it when she was heading with her coworker's to the elevator to return to her station. She trying to stop and talk but she also had to go so I said, 'Hey why don't you take my number? It'll help facilitate this easier.' 8-)

Her phone was in her hand before I even finished my pitch :twisted:

...and just in case it's not clear, my responses are in the blue bubbles. :geek:

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 Post subject: Re: Texting
PostPosted: Sun Dec 13, 2015 7:03 pm 
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And I was wondering who the fuck is the misses

"Is she like a bisexual, cheatting on her girlfriend with Kidd ?"

:lol:


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 Post subject: Re: Texting
PostPosted: Sun Dec 13, 2015 7:16 pm 
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fufe wrote:
And I was wondering who the fuck is the misses

"Is she like a bisexual, cheatting on her girlfriend with Kidd ?"

:lol:


I clarified that at the bottom of my post, fufe-man :lol:

She does have a boyfriend tho 8-)

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 Post subject: Re: Texting
PostPosted: Sun Dec 13, 2015 8:36 pm 
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The Kidd!! wrote:

I clarified that at the bottom of my post, dogé-man :lol:


The Kidd!! wrote:
She does have a boyfriend tho 8-)


Not surprised 8-)


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 Post subject: Re: Texting
PostPosted: Tue Dec 15, 2015 7:52 pm 
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The Kidd :idea:
Nice Drop, Curry Swish
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Keep it straight to the point!


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