Dear Jedi Masters,
I'd like to duscuss the hopefully last big conflict I have with the philosophy here and my experiences.
Reading the stories and knowing you (mostly INTJ guys), it seems to me that most of the times you are dealing with Extraverted women, mostly. I see RKD and Scarf being extraverted themselves and RKD especially does things different than the rest.
The space works with extraverted females in my experience, 100% the cases, especially extraverted feelers. I see it everyday, so that is CONfirmed for me.
BUT... Dealing with introverted girls, it doesn't seem so, much. Sometime I give space, and they fill it so gladly that I don't have to say anything or do anything just be present. But that is like 25% of the time. And these girls are not often very aggresive as far as innitiating contact goes - I've come to discover that they'd rather wait all their life than innitiate anything.
Especially those "silent" artist, bookworm, nerd types I tend to deal with.
So.. To me it looks that you have to take some space with these, but not much. I want your view on this, because I'm not entirely sure yet, and have experienced confusing things.. For example two girls that liked me silently and then got other guy because he acted first - And I thought I was supposed to wait for her to innitiate contact. I think I just got it wrong in the past and took it to the extreme tho.. So discussion now open
You got me wrong man. I'm a straight up INTJ. I'm borderline extroverted and introverted. I'm balanced. Realize that you don't always get the true picture on an internet forum. I also deal with a ton of introverted women. Look up the color test and personality tests on this forum.
If you think I do things on here differently then you have a very rigid view of how things are supposed to be done. I'm working on my own rigid mindset right now. Yes, I'll go up and get all P.I. on a female that hasn't shown any attraction to me if I think she seems interesting. Otherwise, in general, it may seem like to the observer that I'm doing things differently because they don't pick up on the subtle signs that I receive.
You have a very high threshold for what you accept as acceptable evidence to move on a female. Your introvertedness compounds your lack of action because you truly confident in your actions. My threshold is a lot lower because I've learned that the best way to observe and digest signs is by interacting with women. It is directly combined with my balanced extroversion and introversion and confidence in what to do.
Those introverted girls are waiting for you to steal the ball. I had a couple women that didn't give me full control and start getting "aggressive" as you say until I fucked them broke the initial contract and reinstated the contract to my purposes.
Also, your focus on being pimp tight should be related to knowing how to handle every situation or nearly every situation that presents itself to you. Consequently, being less rigid should not mean that you do not create strategies. If you don't have a strategy then how do you expect to interact with the woman in a way that opens her up to you. Everything you say doesn't work all the time so you need to have contingency plans when the woman actually likes you.