He wasn't ego checking you. He was just simplifying your idea. The assumption you made was perfectly fine.
However much you are 'off the charts' that is how much she is off the charts.
PS Yes it is FUN. That's the point!
Thanks Scarf. That's reassuring.
Interesting point to note: I still see it as an ego check for me, since until 'Grinus pointed it out, I was unaware that it was going on in me too. I used to think it was just happening to her, and I would be lying to myself if I didn't admit that some part of me felt "Cool, look at how intoxicating my masculine presence is to her." I just want to see things as they are, not as I would like to see them. 'Grinus' point is extremely valuable to me, since when it happens from now on, I will be curious to also go inward and see (or feel) this going on within myself while I am watching it happen to her. It is probably going to be very instructive.
It is also curiously related to something Kidd!! said in another forum (the link is in the "Executing Order 66" thread:
http://www.naturalfreedom.info/viewtopi ... =executing) about gauging a woman's arousal level by gauging your own. This does ring a few bells for me (from experiences ranging from recently all the way back to 15 or so years ago, in fact), but it's plausible that my following through on turning this suspicion into a realisation was impeded by my ego's desire to a) see everyone as separate and isolated from me (and vice versa), and b) be the motherfuckin' man........
Kind of long winded (what else is new for me?), but wanted to go through this "in public" on this forum, in case it might help someone else reach a similar realisation. (The usual applies - anyone see bullshit or something that needs clarifying, point it out....)
Still, thanks for your reassurance. It truly is appreciated.
PS Yes it is FUN. That's the point!
This! Elsewhere in this forum, Kidd!! warns not to place too much emphasis on eye contact as an OBSERVATION, since it is one of the cruder forms of "jocking", and he's right of course. However, I focus on it not as a sign, but as you say, for FUN. I am beginning to think that it is a very rare experience for a woman to meet a man who makes strong & sexual eye contact, because they seem to jump on it as soon as the opportunity presents itself. For this reason, I usually oblige them.
I think TML posted about this quite a while back.....