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Generally speaking, party girls are stimulus junkies. They are constantly seeking new stimulus and more importantly, will upgrade to the new stimulus. Loud Clubs, party, being part of the “In” social crowd, [Social Hierarchy] alcohol, drugs, money are all sources of stimulus that motivate party girls.

(This is vastly different than a girl who is mostly “emotionally present” girl who will want to connect feelings, share emotions, love, depth, life, and so forth. More often than not, the emotionally-present girl is not a one-night stand type of girl. This does not mean that she does not have a sexual side. It only means that she likes to have an emotional connection before becoming intimate, which then makes it more difficult for one-night stands...)

Party girls love absolutely love attention. These are the type of girls you find in clubs dancing on a table while flaunting their g-string for everyone to see, and the more guys who pay attention, the more they enjoy it. If you’re interested in pulling these girls out of the club, you have to display more attitude that they do along with social hierarchy. You’ll have to dumb down the conversation and you’ll find that you’ll have more intellectually stimulating conversation with a chimp at the zoo.

Not all party girls are this easy to spot however....So then, how do you distinguish between party girls and emotionally responsive ones? How do you make that distinction? What are some of the tendencies of each of these?

party girls are always seeking more new stimuli. You’ll notice that during conversations, even after you have known them for a while, they will not delve too deep into personal questions. For example, they will not ask questions you about your family, siblings, background or what’s important to you, nor will they offer much information about theirs.

They’re capably of 'a wide range of topics to discuss'. These are: Shopping, finding parties, relationship gossip, celebrity gossip, back to shopping and getting drunk again. You’ll find that it’s difficult to establish rapport on an emotional level and even more difficult to relax and discuss something personal or intellectual.

Party chicks are also the consummate “Bigger, Better, Deal” type of people. Remember, it’s all about the stimuli. Invite them to an after party in a nice mansion half way up the hill where they can smoke a couple of joints, and they’re ecstatic to come. However, on the way there, another guy invites them to a nicer mansion that’s all the way on TOP of the Hill with a better view, and hey, he is got cocaine instead of weed, and they’ll abandon you rather quickly.

Bigger, Better, deal doesn’t have come in the form of houses or drugs. It’s basically operating on shallow values, and whoever can offer the more “Socially-Cool” package wins. That’s the way it goes. Just remember that it’s part of the game if you choose to deal with this archetype.

It’s about stimulus and it’s about social hierarchy.. Now, the mansion example may sound very LA, but it applies to all party chicks. In some part of the country, a bigger better deal may be a guy who has cable TV and more than half his teeth. Different stimuli, same dynamic.

They are not evil, and nor are they operating with malice. They just are what they are. They have shallow values and if you understand that, then you can play the game on that level, if you so desire...

Another tendency is that they’re not too often interested in time just with you, like relaxing at home watching a movie with you. There is not too much stimulus and social validation in snuggling up on the couch with you. It’s a matter of, “Where are the cool parties this weekend? Where can I find booze? Did a new shopping mall open here? Where is the bigger better party? Is it time to drink yet?”. they tend to get hammered on alcohol quite often. A mistake men make is trying to change this behavior. If you want a woman who is not getting blasted with alcohol every single weekend, then date a different type of woman.

Another tendency you’ll observe is that they love talking about themselves but do not seem to be interested much in you or others. Some party chicks are “Talkers.” The kind of talkers that you can put on speaker-phone, leave the house to run errands and come back, and they’ll be still engaged in monologues.

They are very “Me, Me, Me” oriented so you’ll notice that it’s always about what their wants are. Some of them, I’ve noticed are the pain in the ass type of complainers. I don’t mean legitimate complaints, but the nagging types...

These types of girls are drama-heavy. Coincidentally, they’ll constantly talk about how they “Hate Drama” but spend some time with them, you’ll find that you’re engulfed in a never-ending sea of drama. Tip for you to remember from now on:Any girl who discusses or mentions drama, is all about it. Remember the above motto even when you’re reading personal-ads on a site like Match.com. If she says she hates “All that Drama,” it’s because she is constantly knee deep in it. People who are not engufled in drama, do NOT mention it, because it does not even occur to them!

So, know the Archetype of women You Want, know what to expect from them and understand what will be required of you to do if you want to get with them on a regular basis.