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Author:  Altair [ Tue Nov 08, 2011 4:56 am ]
Post subject:  Standstills

How can I avoid getting into these?

It always escalates into an ego battle where I don't want to contact them first for obvious reasons. And they don't want to contact me first. And no one ever wins
Whats going on right now is I meet this girl on thursday. We hung out for the night, went good. She was playing some basic games which I ignored. Said she didn't want a hug when we were outside and it was freezing. So I said ok.

Flirted with a guy infront of me, which I didn't react to. Was touching my arm etc. Tried to get me to finish her drink, I said I wasn't thirsty lol.

At the end of the night, she said text me I said no you text me. Anyways the next day I decided, I don't want a standstill I'll text first. So I texted her, she would take about 40minutes to respond to a text. Which doesn't fool anyone because everyone has their cell phones on them.

She invited me to come to a strip club with her and her friends so I went. She was in my space, touching my arm even had her friend ask me if I was interested. Had her friend grab my arm and bring me back to the group when I wandered off. (Yeah I know, didn't seem like a big enough thing to object to though)

Anyways the night ended with her trying to get me to text her. I said no, you have to text me this time. I texted you first now it's your turn. She texted me, asking me questions etc. Plans for the evening came up, I said I was going to see Paranormal Activity she said oh its pretty scaring don't know if you can handle it. I said I'll probably have to get someone to come with me then. No response it's been 3 days.

These standstills never go well, I'm thinking I'll switch it up this time and see what happens. I'm gonna flat out call her on her game. And perhaps reveal my evidence.

Thoughts?

Author:  fufe [ Tue Nov 08, 2011 11:13 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Standstills

To me it looks like she wants to play games and have your attention... But what do I know, this type of girls repels me so I don't pimp them. I'm starting to think that I have too high expectations, lol

Author:  Alchemist [ Tue Nov 08, 2011 12:27 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Standstills

It seems like you believe contacting her first puts you in a powerless position, so you put up a fight which ends up in this power struggle.

She won't fold if your ego keeps getting in the way like this.

Author:  peregrinus [ Tue Nov 08, 2011 9:40 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Standstills

How does it feel to be her toy?

Author:  Altair [ Tue Nov 08, 2011 11:12 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Standstills

peregrinus wrote:
How does it feel to be her toy?
Unpleasant

Which is why I'm gonna hand out my number, and make myself distant so there's no room for her to play these games.

But mostly patience, and not trying to be the bigger person I'm gonna give her a taste of her own medicine when the time is right :evil:

Author:  Slim Titan [ Wed Nov 09, 2011 3:42 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Standstills

Morpheus wrote:
At the end of the night, she said text me I said no you text me. Anyways the next day I decided, I don't want a standstill I'll text first. So I texted her, she would take about 40minutes to respond to a text. Which doesn't fool anyone because everyone has their cell phones on them.

She invited me to come to a strip club with her and her friends so I went. She was in my space, touching my arm even had her friend ask me if I was interested. Had her friend grab my arm and bring me back to the group when I wandered off. (Yeah I know, didn't seem like a big enough thing to object to though)

Anyways the night ended with her trying to get me to text her. I said no, you have to text me this time. I texted you first now it's your turn. She texted me, asking me questions etc. Plans for the evening came up, I said I was going to see Paranormal Activity she said oh its pretty scaring don't know if you can handle it. I said I'll probably have to get someone to come with me then. No response it's been 3 days.

These standstills never go well, I'm thinking I'll switch it up this time and see what happens. I'm gonna flat out call her on her game. And perhaps reveal my evidence.

Thoughts?
I'm going to ask you some questions. The answers I give to these questions are marked in a spoiler.

I said I would not give you an in depth critique again because you did not appreciate the information.

I'll give you my thoughts, but I'll let you fill in the blanks on where, when, and how my answers apply to your situation.

EDIT: SOMEONE TELL ME HOW TO DO A SPOILER.

1. Do you have principles?

2. Are you in prison?

3. Do you think women just come to you or do you think they need convincing?

4. Do you use discretion?

5. Is your cell phone a 24 hour hotline?
[spoiler] 
1. I have many principles, and I do not break them. So, I would in your case voice my principles.

2. I am not in prison. That's the only place that I can told where to go, what to do, and when. 

3. I do not think women come to me, and I don't believe they need convincing. Hint: it ties in with the first answer.

4. I love discretion. I use it in many ways to my advantage

5. My cell phone is not a 24 hour hotline. I lead a busy life and cannot be reached all the time. So, even when a female texts or calls me first I may not get back to her in the next minute, hour, day, or three days; however, I will always respond to her. [/spoiler]

Author:  Slim Titan [ Thu Nov 10, 2011 11:11 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Standstills

Bump:

No one is going to tell he how to write a spoiler on the forum or point me to a directory?

Author:  Dali [ Thu Nov 10, 2011 11:23 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Standstills

rkd1990 wrote:
Bump:

No one is going to tell he how to write a spoiler on the forum or point me to a directory?
I think it has to do with the basic options of the disscusion forum, maybe the general spoiler option for posts isn't "activated"

Author:  Slim Titan [ Fri Nov 11, 2011 12:32 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Standstills

ok, thanks for the heads up.

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