Natural Freedom

Hey guys,

so I took the advise that The Kidd gave me and while I was doing my observations in the last couple days, I noticed that I tend to get more attention from dark skin women while Blond women don't seem to show much interest in me (most of the time..). But the thing is:
I'm not attracted to Blonds or light skin women anyway- the reason it used to bother me in the past was that I was influenced by the social matrix and because the social matix usually promotes light skin women and Blonds - I thought that since these kind of women don't show much intrest in me- that means that I'm not attractive.

So now that I know where it came from and the fact that I'm not really attracted to light skin women and Blonds anyway: I can just not give a shit

Now regarding the experiment:

I read an artical which was not about women but it did touch the women subject as well. it said something like:

'people don’t care that much what you are doing. Even if you get rejected by a girl and people see it – they will very soon forget about it and go back and think about their own problems and dramas in life. So no one really cares or remembers what you are doing'

we are always worried about what people think and we forget that people spend most of their time and energy thinking about their own life, And when it comes to strangers who don't really know you- they don't think about you..

So today I was at the university for two hours - I had to copy some material. I decided to make an experiment: I went to get some coffee, there were people near the cafeteria that time (outside the cafeteria at the yard). I decided I'm going to approach a girl, say something really stupid and then she would blow me off, other people will see And I won't give a shit (at least try not to give a shit...).

So I approached a good looking girl, I looked at her and said:

can I tell you something?

Her: Sure

Me: I really like your ass.
(now I'm waiting for her to blow me off and everyone is watching....)

But instead: she was embarrassed at first But then smiled and said: Thank you

Me (confused ): continued to talk to her and then we had coffee together.

while we were talking I was curious so I told her that this is the most stupid line and how I was surprised by her response. She said that most guys are too afraid to talk to her and the guys that do- usually come up with the same boring lines. So hearing something different was kind of refreshing for her. And she also told me that she noticed I was not nervous when I talked to her and that's what got her curious about me.

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"a sniper is the worst romancer, he never makes the first move"

Thus endeth the lesson.

She was teaching you something, there is a lesson in this.

Now, think, resist the urge to just type some stuff in answer, really think about it before you answer.

Why were you confused?
Was she being honest and open with you?
What was the lesson?

[TO EVERYONE ELSE - RESIST COMMENTING UNTIL SNIPER HAS ANSWERED]

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In building a statue, a sculptor doesn't keep adding clay to his subject.He keeps chiseling away at the inessentials until the truth of its creation is revealed without obstructions. Perfection is not when there is no more to add,but no more to take away.

cause I was expecting a different reaction to a line like that. I thought she would find that offensive.
Yes, I think. she even gave me her number after we finished talking and we are supposed to go out on a date at Saturday evening...
that it's not so much about what you say, if you are not attached to the outcome and feel good within yourself women pick up your vibe and are curious about you. They also like confidence and a big part of confidence is not to care about outcome and as a result not be afraid to say something - even if it sounds stupid.

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"a sniper is the worst romancer, he never makes the first move"

is here a link or something you have, to the article?

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There is no individual doer of any action or deed. Yet deeds are done and actions happen.

I know you did.

If you honestly tell her you think she has a nice ass and mean it and are confident in it. And do not expect anything out of it. Why would she find that offensive?

I will tell you why - the answer is because of the place you are used to coming from, in that place she would have found it offensive. So you expected her to, even though you were coming from a different place now. It was you, not them. From what you posted (as I have not seen the rest) I would say she was.
Exactly.

Though I wonder just how much complimenting her on her nice ass is meant to sound stupid.
Only if you do not mean it, are being nasty or are using it to get something from her (manipulation).

You really can say all kinds of shit if you are coming from the right place.
It is not WHAT you say, it is HOW you say it.
[Now, I know you have heard that a few times before, now you have a context for it]

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In building a statue, a sculptor doesn't keep adding clay to his subject.He keeps chiseling away at the inessentials until the truth of its creation is revealed without obstructions. Perfection is not when there is no more to add,but no more to take away.

@peregrinus

thank you. Always learning from you

@scarface
The artical was in my native language (not English). So even if I did find it you won't be able to read it .

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"a sniper is the worst romancer, he never makes the first move"