Natural Freedom

I've done a little summary of his ebook by saving the parts that I've found interesting to my journey. take a look!




Reflect for a second on the nature of your thoughts.

Sometimes they may be thoughts of comparison, quantification, desire or
regret. Occasionally the odd silence or joy pops in, but if you’re like most men
I meet, your thoughts consist of judgments of others, criticism of yourself, eforts to
understand and control your world, comparisons of your value to others, rehearsals
of how you will look cool or impress others, how you will explain your mistakes to
maintain status, desires of achieving: getting this girl or that girl, regretting losses,
mistakes, embarrassment in front of others from your past.

Dominant men think differently than most. So the Attraction
Code has something to do with how a man THINKS.

So if you meet a woman, she doesn’t necessarily know where you stand in the social
hierarchy. She makes unconscious judgments to determine your status in two ways.

The first way is by looking at how others respond to you. this is why women
go crazy for rock stars, celebrities and other men in positions of power.

The second way is to observe your actions and your verbal and non-verbal
communication so that it is not your actual status as determined by the group
tha t’s important but your perceived or internal status.

Her awareness is so fine-tuned that she assesses men in a split second.

While an understanding of dominance may serve as a great foundation for
learning the Attraction Code, it’s not enough to beat your chest, drag a woman
to your cave and claim her as your own.

She is looking at your character instead of your cool haircut or your fancy
watch. Remember: A man’s value is in his character.

In other words, she is testing something else, and is probably a characteristic
that has evolved over millions of years.

We cannot trust modern science or even the latest
psychology to point us in the right direction.
We must look elsewhere and ultimately find a solution which
(..) gives us the dominance necessary for attraction,

Humans have been mating long before language has even existed.
So we know that body language and other physical cues are much
more signiicant than language.
However, an attractive man is not constantly THINKING about these
things, they just happen automatically.
He must be thinking about something else…

THE NEW ALPHA

the nature of dominance shifted from
physical strength to internal character traits.
here are two very important things to understand here.
First, the dominant male is not a self-serving bully, but an altruistic leader,
who takes on the responsibility of the group’s survival. Second, a man is domi-
nant, not because of his size or aggressive nature, but because of his mind and
how he thinks.

The focus of attention of a good leader is on the well-being of his group.

ACT CIVILIZED .

Yes, laws and traditions have been developed to keep women
from being promiscuous.

Promiscuous women were branded as witches in Europe and colonial
America, and tortured to death.

Women were now forced to live under diferent rules that were incongruent
with their natural biology. And although this period of time lasted thousands
of years, it was still far too short to make deep biological changes in women’s
sexual receptivity.

Instead of expressing their sexuality in an honest, healthy way, women do the
same things men do. hey buy stuf because they are told they need it be attrac-
tive to the opposite sex.

ONE TEAM , ONE DREAM .

When you turn women into concepts, it’s impossible not to see them as
opponents to be conquered.
Women are not your opponents. they are your teammates.

HOW WOMEN SEE MEN

Imagine desperately wanting sex and having to balance that with wanting to
find a man you can trust. But since she is so
vulnerable and is investing and risking so much she has to make sure she takes
that risk of having sex with her best option – a dominant man.

But she can only interpret who you are by making inferences based on
your character. Your character is conveyed by your physical behavior and your
emotional state.

A big part of your character is actually determined by your frame.
In order to understand what I mean by frame, imagine two men watching a
sunset with diferent colored sunglasses on. they’ll see diferent colors though
they’ll be looking at the same thing.

She needs to know if you have a mind geared for survival. Do you get
distracted by the opinions of others? Do you feel threatened by women? Do
other men make you nervous?

Do you emotionally unstable causing you to be unduly afected by
circumstances?

From the moment she is aware of your existence, she is screening your character.

And when you pass the tests, the sequence looks more like this:
- Feeling of slight Attraction.
- testing.
- Attraction spike.
- reflex compliance.
- Backwards rationalization and cognitive dissonance.

All of this can happen below her awareness in an instant.

THE 4EP MODEL OF PERSONAL EXPRESSION

We need to first understand the structure of our personality
from the inside out.

Starting at the most fundamental level, resides your intention and purpose.
this is the most basic “you.”

The low that governs the expression of your intentions can be broken
down into four distinct elements:

Intention > FOCUS > STATE > Expression

Intention: Your intention is your core purpose. It is the desired result you
are trying to achieve in a short term or long term period. It includes the wishes
you’ve had since you were young, the vision you hold for your future and the
emotional experiences you strive to create. Your intention is a function of your
identity and most far reaching goals.

Focus: Your focus is deined as where you are placing your attention. For
example, when interacting with a woman, is your attention focused on worrying
how you’re being perceived, or is it focused on being curious about her? Having
control over your focus is something that is learned.

State: How you feel in your body. This includes your emotion as well as
how you physically feel. Do you feel refreshed and energetic, or do you feel
inhibited and weak? your state is the element that is most susceptible to
outside influences. It is also the element that is most responsible for causing
blockages in your expression.

Expression: Your expression is the outer most realization of your behaviors;
what other people see, and how they perceive you. In an ideal situation, your
expression would be identical to your intention, and you would get the exact
results you want.

Your core intention flows to wherever you focus your attention. Your
focus of attention then determines your state. Your state afects the fullness of
your expression.
If this process is so simple, then why do people have such diiculties
expressing ‘who they really are’ and getting the things in life that they want?

It is because of state-frictions that manifest themselves in life.
These frictions directly afect your state and cause a major blockage in
your personality – so even if your intention is perfect, your expression can
still be suppressed.

ever play a game of “telephone” as a child?
the fun of this game is when the end phrase is much diferent than the original
because of cumulative errors in relaying the correct message. It has been distorted.
your personal expression works the same way.

Although your intention may start out great (you are well meaning, and
simply wish to connect with a woman and get to know her on an intimate level),
you may not understand how to focus your attention or handle your state-
frictions and thus your intention may become distorted along the way.


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Do not try to “remove” these frictions, (just accept that you will never
completely remove them) and never, ever, under any circumstances wait until
they are gone before interacting with women.
You will simply learn to handle them and in a sense, become impervious to
them by making small adjustments to your focus.

THE QUICK AND DIRTY G U I D E TO M A N U F A C T U R I N G CONFIDENCE

I have some news for you.
It may be shocking to you, or perhapsit’s obvious.
Conidence doesn’t really exist.

It is nothing but a feeling that you have when you have the right focus, and
the perceptions that others will have of you when they see you behaving with
that focus.

F O C U S . I’M A B O U T TO HAND Y O U THE I N S T R U C T I O N MANUAL F O R YOUR MIND

your attention never stops. It is your awareness. It can’t be shut of or
lowered, only directed.
think of your intention and attention as a lashlight. Your attention is the
light, and your intention is where you are pointing the light.

What you pay attention to determines your reality.

there is another side to paying attention – pulling attention
away. Attention is energy and when you pay attention to something, you
feed it.

What you ignore is just as important as what you attend to. hink about a
time when you were teasing a friend of yours. Instead of defending himself, he
ignored you completely and continued doing what he was doing.

Chances are he left you alone with your silly behavior, and you felt
stupid. You probably immediately quieted down.

1. the focus of your attention determines your reality.
2. you have the ability to gain conscious control over what you pay attention to
therefore,
You have the ability to gain conscious control over your reality.

THE M I N D IS LIKE A VACUUM . AND Y E S … THAT’S A GOOD T H I N G

Your mind can only focus on one single idea, thought or focus at one time.

For everyone else, the moment you close your eyes, relax and start to clear
your mind, thoughts will begin “popping in” as if being sucked into the empty
space, into the vacuum.

Your focus is the exact same way.

If you do not have an efective focus in your mind in a certain situation,
anything – a focus learned from a movie, a focus you observed in a friend, or a
focus derived from external cues may suddenly “pop in” to your consciousness.
And chances are, that focus won’t be very efective. It will begin to have
detrimental efects on your state and ultimately your expression, resulting in
inefective communication.

the way to prevent this is to have a focus already in your mind going into
the situation.
If it is there, and you are comfortable with it, that focus will “occupy” your
mind and the next time some other focus tries popping in, it won’t be able to;
you have already safeguarded your mind from any detrimental thoughts.

I remember having a girlfriend in college and whenever she was out at a bar
or at a party my focus would always be like “I wonder what she’s doing right
now” or “I hope she’s not talking to guys” etc.

D E V E L O P I N G AN I N V I N C I B L E STATE

you may have heard people say that meeting women is “state based”.
You may have even experienced it yourself. You might go out one night
feeling great and get phenomenal results, and then later go out in a worse mood
and do terrible.

Yes. It’s true. If your state is suppressed, distorted or otherwise not
optimum, you will have a very hard time expressing your true intention.

THE T H R E E FRICTIONS

Friction #1: Attention Fixation
humans only focus 10% of their full
attention in the present moment.
Most people have their attention spread out, with portions of it locked up
in past failures, imaginary irrational fears and future outcomes that they are
attached to.
the mind is busy.

We judge ourselves, doubt ourselves, and compare ourselves to others. All
this is useless.

I was recently teaching a DiClassiied Drills Bootcamp in Chicago and one
of my clients was talking to a smoking hot blonde girl at a private loft party.
A few minutes in, another guy, who was a friend of hers, approached her
and started talking to her. My client froze, stood there facing them, with his
attention ixated on their conversation.
I could almost read his thoughts exactly; “What if she likes him better?
When will he leave her alone? What will happen to ME?”
His state dropped immediately and I could tell that he felt an inner shift, a
loss of control, and a wave of tension illing his body.
I snapped my ingers in front of his face and said “Come back!” Get back
to the present. Get back to reality. We’re all here waiting for you, and yes it is a
safe and friendly place. Welcome home.

You have to be aware of your attention. You have to train it, almost as if it is
a separate entity that has a mind of its own.

You should always keep your attention lowing. Never allow it to get
stuck on anything – whether it is a girl, an outcome, a past failure, or even a
past success.

He said “If you mess up or play the wrong note, fuck it! It’s done man, you can’t
go back to that. he river keeps lowing. Stay in the present!”

Friction #2: social Pressure

If you have ever seen a woman you were attracted to and not approached
her, you have felt social pressure.

Social pressure is the physical sensation that stems from the real or
imaginary conlict between your intention and the intentions of the people
around you.
It also includes the real or imaginary conlicts between your opinions and
the opinions of others.

Notice I said real or imaginary.

It doesn’t even matter what intentions or opinions other people actually
have, all that matters is what you believe their intentions and opinions to be.

Social pressure is amplified when you are around someone who is dominant
to you. People subconsciously act in ways to please the dominant igures in
their life, even when those igures aren’t physically present.

In other words, if you go out with a friend who is dominant to you, you may find it
difficult to “be yourself” or demonstrate your true desires and go after what you
really want.

But if you want to release yourself from the powerful grip of social pressure,
you need to adjust your focus.
It’s easier than you think.
he irst step is to realize or convince yourself that most of the time people
aren’t judging you.

they are far too concerned with their own problems and insecurities to be
thinking about yours!

I had a client recently tell me that before I adjusted his focus he used to walk
around every day with severe social anxiety – and just by changing his focus to
“What can she contribute to my life?” his anxiety completely disappeared.

Friction #3: Intention-Violation

If Friction #2 is deined as violating the intentions of others, Friction #3
is deined as violating the intention of your self.

Whenever you act in a way that is counter to your ethics, that violates
your intention or deviates from your path, it will afect your state.

A strong intention is realized as stillness of focus and your ability to stay
connected to your life purpose. You can strengthen your intention by cutting out
short-term indulgences that don’t serve this purpose.

Every time you say “no” to these things you build your internal power and
give yourself future momentum.

And future pleasure is more important than now pleasure.

How do you spend your time? How much of your time is spent on
unhealthy food, laziness and distracting activities?

In your mind you know that you are cheating yourself. You are diminishing
your own personal power.

T H E HIGHEST L E V E L OF S T A T E CONTROL

the highest level of state control is no state control.

Your state is an overall feeling but is actually comprised of both
internal emotion and an accompanying physical feeling. his state guides
us and motivates us to do or not do certain things.

Your state is determined by your focus and the amount of training or
experience you’ve had maintaining it while exposed to the three state frictions.

When time is spent in a state it reinforces that state and makes it
more and more frequent.

People who are angry all the time are that way because they practice
an “anger” state every day. hey always seem to end up in situations that
make them angry.

And just like you can be addicted to bad states, you can be addicted
to good ones too – like joy, enthusiasm or playfulness.

When these positive states are predominant, it makes it harder for the
negative ones to creep in… but be careful about being too attached to
these positive states.
your attachment to any particular state is ultimately limiting.

the very concept of “state” is a static deinition. In other words,
if you are playful because it’s your habit and you’ve had success with it
in the past, you may have a tendency to always default to that state no
matter what the situation is.

And yes, in most cases, it is far more efective than being “sad” in most
situations, but remember that pick-up, and life in general is dynamic and
requires you to be emotionally flexible.

Attachment to a state, even a good one can prevent you from learning a new
way of interacting with the world.
One thing that I learned from the science of neuro-feedback is that all static
states are actually considered dysfunctional.

When you reach a very high level of personal evolution, all static states will actually
start to drop away. You will no longer have attachment to deinite states and will low
from moment to moment improvising and creating a wonderful internal reality.

A U T E N T I C I T Y

What is truly limiting your expression is actually caused by your own mind
and self doubt, but is usually perceived as an outside force.
You may perceive others as judging you, attacking you, holding you
down. You feel the urge to do something, to express yourself fully but you fear
some kind of repercussion, some kind of judgment or imposed limitation.
You hold back. Your expression is distorted.

Distorted expression can come out one of two ways.
the first way is that your expression is stiled or inhibited. this will come
across timid, weak or just plain strange.
the second way is through adopting a persona.
there are many diferent kinds of personas, but they are all masks: they hide
your true self, and present a distorted version of your expression.

Personas are really distractions; a guy is playing enough of a character such that
he is distracted from the uncomfortable state he is in. (His state is uncomfortable
only because he has not trained his focus to deal with the hree Frictions)

Personas are masks that we wear when we want to interact with someone,
but we fear their disapproval. they are false personalities that we resort to in the
face of social pressure.

Sometimes a persona will manifest as a ‘shy guy’. his is a timid, weak man
who is protecting himself from rejection. He talks quietly, and stands too far
away when he tries to talk to a group of people.
Sometimes a persona can manifest as a player vibe, or a macho act.
A guy can be scared that his true self is not good enough, so he
overcompensates. He will put on his ‘player-mask’ or his ‘tough-guy mask,’ or
even his ‘Energizer Bunny party-guy mask.’

there are endless masks guys wear. It takes a lot of self-relection to see what
yours is. In the early stages of learning this stuf, I needed the trained eye of
mentors to reveal mine to me.

Even though the persona may feel comfortable to the person using it, when
they approach a woman or interact with other people in general, it is usually
very obvious.

Not that the observers are saying to themselves “his guy is using a persona”
but instead, they just feel that something isn’t right. here is a very obvious lack
of authenticity.

And when I say authenticity, I don’t mean being honest, I don’t mean being
the “real you” and I don’t mean you are showing your true feelings immediately
to a woman.

When I talk about being authentic I just mean that you are communicating
your pure intention with little interference from your state. You are operating
under the Attraction Code and your four elements of personal expression are aligned.

When you are communicating in this way people will respond positively.
hey will react in ways consistent with your intention.


T R A N S P A R E N C Y AND F R E E D O M OF E X P R E S S I O N

Ideally, your expression should reach a level of transparency.

You can think about transparency as being defenseless, exposed, or even
naked. You do what you do fully, indiferent to what others think.

You don’t wear a mask to hide your true self. Your expression is completely
exposed to the observation and judgment of others.

You don’t defend yourself before others can attack you. You freely express
yourself with your language, facial expression and body so that people can feel
you fully.

Your personality is naked. When this happens, don’t be surprised if certain
people begin to detest or criticize you.

he same thing happens to musicians, artists, actors, and politicians –
people who have put themselves out there, expressing themselves fully. People
have a love-hate relationship with expressive individuals.

That is why people become critical; they are jealous because they want to express
themselves, but just can’t seem to (or don’t know how to) let go and drop their masks.
My hope is that you will continue to let go of your mask. It takes some real
strength and dedication, but the rewards are tremendous.

T H E END R E S U L T OF I N T E R N A L I Z I N G THE A T T R A C T I O N CODE

Full realization of the Attraction Code means that your intention is fully
expressed in all situations despite the external frictions on your state.

Nice writeup sofforte,

Thank you for taking the time to put it together and contribute.

Can I suggest you read this post : http://www.naturalfreedom.info/viewtopic.php?f=7&t=197 in regard to authenticity, transparency and masks

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