@ Altair: I agree 100%.
When I say “lead an honorable life” I mean u know, not stealing, not cheating ( women, tests etc ), keeping promises, being honest, standing up for the ones that can’t stand up for themselves, in a "battle", giving another person the right to defend himself, never back-stab anyone, never talking behind someone’s back, showing appreciation when needed, rewarding some else’s success etc
@ Leo: I am aware these are ideas and labels, but I choose the term for the sake of the conversation. Alpha = the best part of you, your true self.
You are right, I don’t need to be a nice person, but I choose to. I train people on how to treat me, so if I treat someone nice and with respect, I expect to be treated nice and with respect, as well. There is no reason and excuse not to. If not, I have to take the proper measures.
But what I meant by a "nice person" is that I am easy to get along with, open, fun, friendly, low maintenance, humble, I actually listen to people when they talk to me, regardless of who it is, I don't argue etc.
But I also have very low tolerance for disrespect, bullshit, games and manipulation and that gives me the power to be a nice person.
I in general try to be nice, but my moral code isn't so inflexible as to restrict myself. I need to be morally fluid if I come across someone who wouldn't think twice about causing me harm, really have no qualms about preemptively stabbing them in the back first. I'd sleep well anyways
Your assuming far too much responsibility for others actions, if you think I train people how to treat me then when they do what they want without care of how it effects you. You will blame yourself
For example a couple of the people I am living with are like 18 so just moved out and blah blah...the one kept piling dishes in the sink. I asked him nicely one time, "Do you mind not putting your dishes in the sink and put them in the baskets we have. I like to be able to do mine." He agreed and then piled them in the sink again...I wasn't nice after that.